How do you make your family understand?

thisstarr · 09-27-2002, 07:32 PM

Hello Everyone,

I just dont understand how to make my boyfriend understand what I am going though everyday..lately we have being getting in fights because he doent understand! When we argue it upsets me so much and makes my pain worse! He says he does understand, but he will forget that I am suffering. Now I know he possiably cant understand but do any of you have any ideas how I can make things easier with him...I love him, and he trys to help me somewhat, the thing that upsets me the most is he saids "why do you have to stay home all the time and do nothing" I cant make him understand why I cant go out and do the thing we use too..he wants me to take a advil and fake like I am happy...ha..I cant do this!! He gets mad because he want to go do things and all I want to do it die!

Please any input would help!!!

thanks guy,
Starr

Elaine · 09-28-2002, 03:21 AM

"I WOULD IF I COULD"
There's a lot of things I could do,
at least according to you.
Where there's a will, there's a way,
and I won't plan a strenuous day.

I appreciate the offer,
but I'm afraid I'm going to pass.
Like the gauge that reads empty,
the car starts, but soon runs out of gas.

I know it's hard to understand,
but some things are beyond me today.
At times I hardly make a move,
and just barely get through the day.

Sometimes walking across the room,
is a mental and physical strain.
I know I would enjoy myself,
but I wouldn't enjoy the pain.

You think I'm being difficult.
Believe me, that isn't true.
You can't begin to imagine,
all the things I'd like to do.

Nobody willingly gives up,
all the pleasures of the past.
We fight to hold on to them,
wishing forever they would last.

My life now has limitations,
far more than you can see.
If My "No" disappoints you,
Imagine, how it's affecting me!

Take care of yourself, the boyfriend will just have to understand or tell him he is replaceable http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/hammer.gif

Elaine

thisstarr · 09-29-2002, 01:14 AM

Elaine,
Thank you so much

Did you write that? It was nice! I like the other one your posted as well "Hi this is tmj" It really hit home with me!

I just wish sometimes I could slap the crap of of him just to make him understand, but someone who has never been sick in his life cant understand...I know he trys but not good enough..lol...I am going to e-mail that poem to him, maybe then he will be more understanding....thanks for your input I greatly appreciate it!

Thanks again...

Starr

gennileigh · 09-29-2002, 10:27 PM

I totally feel you girl...I'm going through the same thing.. Not only with my boyfriend but my family too... Nobody seems to understand how much pain I'm in...I guess all we can do is pray for the pain to go away

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~Jennifer Parcus~

thisstarr · 10-01-2002, 12:39 AM

Hey Jennifer,

It is so hard sometime...I always feel if I slap the crap out of them..then maybe, just maybe they will get it..

I know if I was the one not suffering I dont think I could understand this pain, this is the worst kind of pain to be in..

Is there anything you do to "try" to help them understand?

take care,

Starr~