please help

given_to_fly · 09-23-2003, 03:13 PM

ok,I'm only 18 but I'm really starting to feel over weight, everyone tells me I'm not but when I stand in front of my mirror with just bra and underwear, and well I feel very fat, I get jealouse of other girls who are quite thin and I want to lose weight so badly but it's so hard and I'm always hungry and I have no idea how I can drop a few pounds and I'm just getting very frustrated...I have a boyfriend and he's always telling me about how good I look so I'm really not trying to lose weight for a boyfriend or anything, I just want to do it for me, I used to be really fat when I was younger, like at the age of 11 to 14 and I was always made fun of. I have a few low self esteem problems, which really sucks, I have my good days and my bad days, sometimes I feel so fat and ugly I dont' even want to go to school and other days I feel quite good about myself and am quite happy with how I look, but stil I would like to drop a few pounds cause I know I've gained weight over the summer and I was just wondering if anyone out there had any suggestions..please and thanks I could really use them.

Houdini · 09-23-2003, 03:22 PM

Can you give us some of your stats - height, weight, what size clothes you're wearing, what type of build you have (large frame, med, small), what types of foods you're eating, any exercise you're getting, etc?

This will help us to give you the best advice we can!

snoopy63 · 09-23-2003, 03:24 PM

you know..i had a similar prob when i was younger in that i was overweight all my like and sooo used to being called names and dealing with the "fat" issue that for a while in 7th grade i had been skating regularly and was actually the correct weight for my age and i never even knew it! i remember being told in gym that i was not overweight and i couldnt believe it and then i have looked back at pics and realized i was okay but i had heard it and felt it so long that i never knew that i was okay then until later and the time had past and unfortunately things got much worse in high school before the got better..mainly because i had quit skating and my parents divorced etc etc...
someone said here that it takes a while for your brain to catch up with your body in how it perceives itself. is your weight good as far as the charts go?? is your bmi healthy?? maybe you might need some toning but i would be you are just fine and just havent gotten used to the "new" you!!
good luck to you!!! hope i made some sense...

heather6869 · 09-23-2003, 03:25 PM

Hi given_to_fly, welcome to the board. It would help us if we knew your stats, such as weight and height and what you typically eat in a day. You also have to remember that your still young and your body can still be changing so don't be to hard on yourself. Your lucky to have a boyfriend who likes you regardless how you look. Your too young to be so critical and hard on yourself but I know were your comming from. Anyway post your stats and were try to help you as best as we can.

given_to_fly · 09-23-2003, 03:46 PM

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Originally posted by Houdini:
Can you give us some of your stats - height, weight, what size clothes you're wearing, what type of build you have (large frame, med, small), what types of foods you're eating, any exercise you're getting, etc?

This will help us to give you the best advice we can!

well..I am now 160 but before the summer i was 145 and I was quite happy with that, my height is about 5'7, and I'm about a 13 sometimes 14 depends on the make of the clothes, what I would like to be is a 12 maybe even an 11, but I don't know. Now I'm sure I just sound like a whiner cause it's really not that bad, but I would like to loose a few pounds. I'm also a vegitarian..so..I think that may be a reason as to why I'm gaining weight. I eat chicken sometimes so I'm kind of a semi-vegitarian, but still, I try to eat healthy but it's so hard I just thought that someone could give tips...also with the whole exercise thing. I tried to walk to school everyday, for the first two weeks it worked but it's so hard because my apartment is right at the bottom of a hill, no matter which way I go I have to walk up a hill and I almost die walking up the hill, I like sweat to death and end up completely out of breath so I didn't want to deal with that anymore so I decided to start taking the bus.
I do a bit of walking, I tend to walk home alot, unless my friends there to give me a ride, i have my lisence but no car.