Dont know what to say to her

[Katie13]

My nan has alzheimers and shes getting to the stage where she doesn't even know who I am. It really upsets me and I dont know how to talk to her anymore...I feel really awkward and my mum gets really upset with me making excuses to go round there, but it just upsets me too much and everyone leaves in the room on our own and I dont know what to say to her and I can't leave the room coz I love my nan and I dont want to be rude.
Please help,
Katie xxx

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[Sweetie]

Hi Katie. My Grandma has Alzheimers too and doesn't really know me anymore either. She hasn't said my name in quite a while but she knows I'm someone important to her. I know it is awkward for you to be around her, especially alone. It was at first for me too. You should make sure you let your mom know how you feel, chances are she feels the same way. Also, It's ok to sit quiely with your Nan or walk hand in hand. The more often you visit, the more comfortable you may become with being alone with her. I hope this helps a little bit. Please know that you're not alone. God bless you and your family.

Sweetie

[auntjudyg]

Dear Katie,

Visiting people with any sort of affliction can be awkward. And even though your nan does not seem to know you, personally I think on some level your visit is recognized and appreciated. Just carry on as normal a conversation as possible. Tell her about your day and what has been going on in your life lately, just like you would with anyone else.

[nro510]

Hi Katie, I take care of My 93 yr old Mother & can tell you from personal experience that it doesn't make any diference what or even if there is much of a conversation. The important thing is just to visit her & let her know you Love her (it will make you feel good too).
My Mom can't follow conversations very well, but she gets very excited whenever someone stops by to see her.
Some days she may participate in a conversation, some days, she won't & some days a conversation (the same one she enjoyed a day ago) will agitate her. The length of time you visit can be short enven 5-10 minutes (in fact sometimes that is best.
Tell her about school, the weather, or just that you Love her.

[nro510]

P.S.
It is obvious that you are a loving person (many people wouldn't even take the time to ask what to do). Your Grandmother is lucky to have you.
God Bless You!