I'm so sorry to hear about your mom, I know how hard it is on you.
I had a patient that was on Ativan when I started working with her, and I soon realized it was making her much worse. I called the doctor, and got her meds changed. Lots of people don't question the medication they're on, and boy, is that a mistake. I worked with this lady 4 1/2 years, and finally I found a drug that helped her sleep, and kept her calm during the day, without her appearing druged all the time. It was traodone, and all she took was 50mg.
Good luch and God Bless you, and Yours
Sky