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Old 02-06-2004, 01:51 PM   #1
Cathyy
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dementia or alzhiemers

Hello,
I have a 73 year old aunt that has not been diagnosed with alzhiemers or dementia but something is very wrong. She started repeating herself about 7 years ago. She calls me 7 and 8 times a day. Same thing over and over. In the last few years she's gotten paranoid. Thinks there's a rat or varment living in her apartment. Never sees it. Says it doesn't eat anything or poop but she knows it's there. We've had exterminators and even put traps and poison out ourselves to try and ease her mind. Nothing works. Now she thinks someone comes in her apartment while she's gone and sits on her couch. Says she can tell someone sat there. Thinks someone puts air in her tires at night. Not lets it out but puts it in. I could go on and on with these things she says. She lives in a senior citizen's apartment but noone there wants to be around her. It's really sad. She's not happy anywhere she goes. Now she's gotten to where she won't stay by herself at night. Wants someone to sleep with her because she's scared but she doesn't really know what she's afraid of. She still drives but I don't think she needs to be. Her son has taken her to several doctors and they say it's just old age. I don't think it is but my hands seem to be tied. She's so forgetful I don't see how she can be taking her meds right. She is worrying everyone to death. Starts calling around 4:00 in the afternoon trying to find a place to spend the night. If you let her stay with you she gets up all hours of the night so you get no sleep. I'm at a loss of what to do for her. Her son did talk her into a nursing home but she wouldn't stay out of the other patients rooms. Would go get in the bed with them and the nurses would have to physically remove her. This is a very sad situation. Any advice would be appreciated.
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Old 02-07-2004, 05:14 PM   #2
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Re: dementia or alzhiemers

Hi,

I agree with the above. I do have a Mom with Alzhermer's. The memory loss, wandering, paranoia, restlessness, and repeatativeness are all part of Alzheimers at different stages of the disease. 3 years ago, Mom had just forgotten lots of thing (how to make coffee, make a long distance call, write a fraction, and a million other things). 2 years ago she opened the same Christmas gift bag 3 times in 10 minutes and was equally delighted each time, and was suspicious and combative when I wouldn't let her leave the house (carrying her purse, cold cream and shower cap) at 11pm. 18 months ago, she didn't know her own furniture or her own daughter and was concerned about being late to school and if her mother knew where she was. 12 months ago she forgot how to walk and now she does nothing for herself - has to be fed, dressed, etc. She can read, but has no understanding and cannot think to turn a page. Sad.

It is essential that she is somewhere where someone else will administer her medicines - she cannot be taking them correctly. Overdose or underdose can have awful symptoms that clear up when the doseages are corrected and the body has had time to get rid of extra medicines.

Talk with her son - he's sure to be very concerned as you are. Do an on-line search for "Alzheimer's symptoms". Someone must take away the car keys before she hurts herself or someone else. She will soon forget that. Hope her son already has Power of Attorney. Talk to an elder care lawyer for additional advise.

I told Mom's doctor that it didn't matter to me if it was called dementia or Alzheimer's - Mom matched everything for middle stage Alzheimers and she wasn't herself anymore.

You're not alone on the unwelcome path. Blessings - Barbara
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Old 02-07-2004, 06:03 PM   #3
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Re: dementia or alzhiemers

My first thought is to get her to a Neurologist,to be tested,then after dx have her put on one of the AD meds.They are not a cure,but they can help.She does need 24/7 care.........
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Old 02-07-2004, 11:24 PM   #4
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Re: dementia or alzhiemers

I don't want to scare you but my mother had Alzheimer's and it started out much the same way. She was living alone in her home for a few years after my father died and often expressed concern about being alone. Other than slight memory problems which I simply thought was due to her age (75), she sure seemed to have a good mental focus. I lived quite a distance from her at the time, so I didn't get a clear picture of what was going on, I guess. One day, I was takling to her on the phone and she sounded very nervous, saying "they need to talk to me, so I have to hang up now." I didn't feel right about this but still couldn't figure out what was going on. Two days later, I received a phone call from my mom's neighbor. I was told that she was in the hospital and couldn't imagine why. It turns out that my mother had been pounding on the neighbor's door, frightened as can be, telling them to "get the people out of her house!" In her mind, there had been groups of "faceless" people (adults and children) who had been in her home, doing little more than walking around or sitting down. The diagnosis was "senile dementia" (which later became Alzheimer's). Once this episode faded away and I had gone home to stay with my mom, things seemed back to normal and she didn't seem to worry about anything. Several weeks later though, I woke up from my mom pounding at my door, yelling "Please, tell these people to get out of my house!" Unfortunately, that was the start of many such frightening events which finally ended up having her placed in a nursing home. I did all I could to keep her at home, including a live in nurse, but the decision to take her away was the hardest and saddest I ever had to make.
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Old 02-10-2004, 05:02 PM   #5
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Re: dementia or alzhiemers

Thanks for all the advice. I will let her children read this. Maybe hearing it from someone else will be what they need. They all agree that there is a problem but noone wants to make the first move. Something has to be done soon. Someone asked me the other day what was wrong with my aunt. He ran into her in town and she asked him over and over how his father was doing. He told her several times that he died 5 years ago. Finally he just answered he's doing fine. She spent a week in Arlington with her daughter and thought she was someone else several times. How can they just sit back and not take control of the situation? I don't understand. Thanks for listening.
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