Hi Farscape --
I know you are not keen on having this done, but how sick do you want to get? Where do you want to be when the big attack hits? Wouldn't you prefer to pick your own surgeon/facility? How old do you want to be when you have surgery? The younger you are, the easier this will be. Wouldn't you prefer not to be terribly ill and have to possibly have the long version of this surgery as a result of that? There are a lot of questions to ask yourself. Only you can make the ultimate decision, of course.
I understand your fear of surgery, believe me, and your dislike for needles, etc. But it's not bad, really! And you will feel SO much better, and all this angst will be gone and you can move on with your life. Being consumed by something like this is unhealthy in itself.
If I were you, I would really ask for some Valium to get you through the long days before the surgery. The waiting is the WORST, truly. If you have any other questions or concerns, ask away.
FYI, gall bladder surgery IS popular. In fact, it is the MOST commonly done abdominal surgery in this (and many other) countries. Before lap surgery was perfected, the old style open surgery was very common, but more people lived longer suffering with the attacks and discomfort because recovery from open surgery was so long and painful. Now it's quicker and easier to just get it done.
Best wishes to you as you struggle with this decision.