ANewman:
I am so sorry that your family is going this awful ordeal. Your wife is in bad shape, and seems to need professional help. Do NOT feel bad about not being able to "fix" this for her, you've done everything you can to help her. You had mentioned telling her doctors of the situation, if that is the case, I would discuss the suicidal comments with that doctor. Hopefully, she would not be able to go through with anything because of the tight watch you have on her right now, but I would hate to make that assessment and then be wrong. This is nothing to mess around with. You owe it to your kids to get their mom the help she needs. She isn't going to sit up in bed and say everything's fine now....I think you are looking at a long term treatment (not necessarily inpatient). I'm sure we all have an opinion about what we would do if this was happening to our spouse....but you probably know her better than anyone else. Reach deep down in your heart and look at things HONESTLY, without hesitation or fear of how things will appear to your friends and family. They are not the ones you need to conern yourself with. Look at your wife and think hard about what will be best (in the long run) for her, for her children, for your family. She isn't able to make those decisions right now, she needs you now more than ever. She may not like what you decide, but I will bet with everything I have that one day in the near future, when she is feeling much better, and OFF the narcotics, she will wrap her arms around you and thank you from the bottom of her heart for loving her enough to make the difficult (and probably unpopular) decisions on her behalf. She is in a state of hopelessness......please give her some hope......Please stay in touch if you can, I know you are very occupied with other (more important) things....but if you have a spare minute...I know there are several people (myself included) on this board who are thinking of you and your wife and praying for a peaceful and successful resolution. Fondly ~ Jen
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