Hi yes it is definately the jumping through hoops game or better yet the process of elimination. We went through allergists, neuropsychologist, pediatrician, psycologist, psychiatrist, occupational therapist etc I think you get my drift, before we found a pediatrician who A. listened B. was open minded and C.Cared about my son. It seems most doctors want to eliminate the possibility of other conditions because there really is no standard test for add or adhd. My son was misdiagnosed with three different conditions before we got to the core of the problem. And he is considered mild to moderate adhd! So be patient but most importantly find a doctor you feel comfortable with and trust that is the best thing you can do for yourself, trust your gut. After meeting with a few doctors you can get a feel for who you trust.
We also had a similar meeting with a very well known psychiatrist in our area, she met with him for 15 minutes and diagnosed him with anxiety and put him on zoloft, HORRIBLE experience. but that's another story... The pediatrician we have now met with me for 2.5 hours the first time. He stayed with me until 630pm after the office closed and everyone went home !
Good luck to you and find that doctor that will listen to you! They're out there.