IM SO ugly AND pathetic --someone HELP

[boylanpower]

Hi all my name is Boylan
Do to the massive amounts of anti depressants im on i am really fat. Ok last summer i went on a low carb diet and lost 35 pounds. Down to my 175 ideal weight. I held this weight for a couple months then in the last two or so months i have put on 50! pounds!!
ok im a skinny guy locked into a fat body by my drugs+depression. I wish I could be one of those charismatic people who draws all kinds of people (especially girls) to me. I am completely and uterly alone. Im fat and because to the best of my knowledge i have never attracted a girl to me i assume im ugly.
sigh
anyone know anything that would make me more attractive?
any thoughts?>
thanks

[bjg]

i have heard that steroids put weight on l..but i didnt know that anti depressants did it as well..but i am not a pill person ..and believe that often times the problems they give us are worse than what we started out with...so you mite be right about them contributing to your weight gain...i suggest this..talk to your dr about possibley changing your meds to something that wont add the pounds..then see a therapist if you havent already..then see a nutritionist and get on a healthy eating regimen..then establish an exercise program it will help you physically and mentally...

[nicola76]

Boylanpower, aside from the anti-depressants are you receiving any counselling? Drugs alone won't cure a depression and the counselling would help with your self-esteem issues.

A combination of sensible eating and exercising will put you on the road to feeling and looking better.

Take care and keep in touch.

Nic

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[boylanpower]

im a tall guy- so i carry the weight sublimely. The only person who notices the extra 50 pounds is me (when im naked). So to all other people im normal.
im seeing a pschoologist for my depression, it is an interesting idea to see a nutritionist.
basically i am completely and uterly alone. (my mon and sister only yell- they're grieving deeply but repressing the pain.
So #1. I am alone
#2. i dont no how to attract people (especially girls) to me
#2. Boy i would feel alot better if i just had a couple close friends and especially a girl friend.
how do i attract people to me?
thanks
boylanpower

[tweetbirdy]

Hi Boylan !

How old are you, if you don't mind me asking? I think the answers for possible suggestions for meeting people might be a little different depending on your age.

I'd say not to give up hope, sometimes it is hardest to find someone when you care so much about it. And also are you picky at all? Sometimes our expectations are so high that we don't see the good available 'fish'
in the sea.

Do you know exactly what you want? I tried dating this guy whom was very overweight and shy. I thought he was great but he dumped me and said I'm not good enough for him!!! http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/dizzy.gif When I have dated and had long term relationships some pretty hot guys!!
Of course I think that was a reflection of how he felt about himself.
Don't despair though , since you are depressed , you are probally sensitive too and girls really dig sensitive guys .



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