Estrostep, is it killing my relationship??

frustrated boyf · 12-20-2004, 04:53 AM

This is embarrassing but here we go...... Ive been with my gf for almost nine months and we enjoyed a very healthy sexual relationship she began taking estrostep and we have intercourse alot less now than before. Has anyone else experienced this with estrostep. Im worried that it is going to affect our relationship not just because the physical part of sex but the intamacy and closeness that it puts into a relationship. What is a way to bring this up with out coming off as a typical man? I understand that being on birth control does alot to her body but it is really frustrating just rolling over and going to bed everynight. Also is there any suggestions for any other BC. I am worried about bringing this up because she is very sensitive about things like this but I want her to know that it is not about just having sex
Thanks

JuiciCouture · 12-20-2004, 04:28 PM

I got to commend you for taking the time to find out whats going on with your girl's body! I was just prescribed Estrostep but havent taken it yet (and am still debating on it..)
Let me just tell you that I totally understand where you are coming from. I know its not just because your a typical guy and want sex. It doesnt feel like a girlfriend if youre not intimate or close.. It just feels like a Girl thats a friend. But thats besides my point- I would suggest trying Nordette 28. It has a lower level of estrogen (which seems to cause sluggishness or low sex drive from what Ive been researching) Nordette actually, somewhat, increased my sex drive after the initial 3 month "getting used to it" time. At first I was kind of annoying emotionally but I was back my old self by month 3. (Which is the very calm,cool and collected girlfriend that doesnt get emotional over anything and is always *ready*haha..But the first month I was upset over everything and my sex drive was a little lower than usual!) ...SO youll have to beware of the first few months or so on ANY pill..its increasing hormones in her body...thatll make anyone a little wacky..But just be patient. I was on Nordette for 2 years and LOVED IT (So did my bf, ha ha) So give it a try and let us know what happens.

frustrated boyf · 12-20-2004, 05:05 PM

thanks alot its a tough situation cause you dont want to come off as a very insensitive jerk thanks for the advice I greatly appreciaite it

JuiciCouture · 12-20-2004, 05:45 PM

Youre welcome. And as long as you approach the subject with a caring attitude, she'll pick up on that and it wont be so bad. Just choose your words wisely.
Maybe you can start by asking her how she feels with the pill in her system...(what are u experiencing, is it making you feel sick or tired? do you think youd wanna try something else, etc) Then you can approach her with the idea of trying a different pill that might not be so strong hormone wise. Dont even mention the sex drive unless you think its necessary. I wouldnt add it in unless she says something about it first, maybe.
I hope you get things resolved and that they work out for you! Let me know what happens if you want...

perkinssl · 01-10-2005, 02:56 PM

I am taking Estrostep FE and I find that on the 1-2 seconds weeks of my pack I am not thatinterested in intercourse but I still enjoy it, however on the 3rd week I am..So i would assume that it does have something to do with the hormone chanages that take place in the 3rd week. Maybe she should try another kind.