VERY afraid of angry husband's outbursts

[funchick]

My husband has always had an "anger issue" that he waws working on and doing a fabulous job. Last night we were in the car when he flew off of the handle, squeeled his tires, got out slammed doors, screamed in my face, called me a few not very nice names, and the situation excelled until someone called the police. we were gone by the time they got to where we were. I tired talking to him, and I told him that he hurt me by doing all of the things that he did. He told me that if he wanted to hurt me that I would be hurt.

Now, maybe I have watched too many LIFETIME movies, but this whole sitatution has me afraid to say anything to him. I am afraid to gove my opinion, or tell him that I am unhapoy about anything.

Does anyone have any suggestions?

i am really aftraid now.

[CuriousMe4200]

I'd say, talk to the proffesional. That kind of behavior often leads to physical violence. Try talking to him about his problems, something is on his mind that is irritating him, making him taking it out on you.

[palominogirl]

I survived a 6 yr relationship with a boyfriend just like that. I was constantly walking on eggshells around him and everything was always my fault. I couldn't live with him and I couldn't live without him. Look up narcissistic personalties on the internet. A good website on this is *********.com. It says, bottomline, run away as fast as you can and don't look back. Good luck.

[sandra421]

in reply, my husband is the same, his excuse for his anger is my 19 year old daughter, who is a big fat user and a loser in his opinion, so he vents everything on her and then i defend her and then i am to blame for not changing her and not sticking up for him, blahblah-he refuses to seek help individually as he says he has "no problems" but will go to marriage counseling, he is irate that i am seeking counseling on my own and today had appt with his primary care doc for med checkup as he is on effexor and he said the same stuff, its all daughters fault and mine and when he left to go back to work he said he was calling a realtor to put the house up for sale. what a blow, i am terrified what he will be like when he gets home tonight.
hugs to all in this boat which feels like its sinking fast

[upshutter17]

Hi. I can relate you guys, but with my dad. His anger is incredible. He is verbally, emotionally, and mentally abusive towards all in my house, especially my Mother. He'll find any issue or little thing to blow up a million times worse. Usually it's my fault (I am an 18 year old). It's usually something I said or did. My Mother ALWAYS defends me because it just honestly is never really my fault. I never do anything bad, I'm a really calm and effective girl. I used to be really scared, but now I'm not. How sad is it that we have gotten use to daily insults. As far as physical....I have told him that I WILL call the cops on him, and I keep the metal bat (Reason for homeruns when I was younger) under my bed. Being afraid of his next temper flare is creepy. How can someone be so angry? My heart goes out to you all. I pray to God you experience no physical, but emotional, mental, and verbal can be so much worse. You are all in my prayers.
Upshutter