Is my husband Bi Polar?

[lovelyme]

He has anger issues that can be like rages. He is unnapproachable at times or a lot of the time. He can go from really happy to just solemn and into a fit and then he will yell and then usually leaves the house. He does drink often and it does effect these symtpoms greatly. On a normal day is a joker and then quiet like sitting in front of the TV and being I guess a typical man you could say, but do not bring up finances or he will start going into a fit or say something that he takes wrong and it is, "Leave me alone" or "shut up". He cannot adapt well to change when having an argument. I fyou bring up too many things he has a mental melt down and all he can do is yell, cus, demean and get in your face. Sometimes all this over asking him more than 3 questions on a topic he dislikes. Almost like a tantrum. The next day he will be low about it and he will carry out this low until he feels he wants to be nice and at that time he will be nice, but those high times do not last very long. He always seems hostile inside. You can see it on his face. Perfect discription of him is Dr. Jekll and Mr. Hyde. So is he Bi Polar?

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Marie

[chrysanthemum]

Hi Marie,



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[Yankee]

This is my absolute first time logging in to this site. Your message compelled me to write. I can only share my own experience. I am a recovering alcoholic (20+ years, one day at time), and bi-polar (12 years) now. For me, I got sober first, and then found out I was bi-polar. The only thing that has worked for me is compliance on both fronts, not drinking and taking medication as prescribed. I hope your husband finds recovery on one or both. It is not fun feeling all that and not knowing why. I am grateful every day for my recovery, because although my life is not "perfect", I have been given the tools to handle what is in front of me. Thanks for your post.

[lovelyme]

He does have a drinking problem and he has said he does once before, but he still does it. I have given so much of myself that I have now given up. I am so tired and drained that I just assume be alone with my daughters and not have to deal with it in my home. He has to want to help himself and so far it looks hopeless. His own mother won't see it for anything more than face value and would defend him because she is a simliar character so intervention is not an option. He has no faith what so ever in God either. He makes me sad and ill sometimes when I look at him or smell him. He needs to get his life together without me. I will not be drug down. He cannot get help for anything he has going on mentally until he stops abusing himself chemicaly as in beer. I know I sound unsupportive, but I cannot change him so I am using tough love I guess.

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Marie

[chrysanthemum]

Hi Marie,

I'm not supposed to give any advice, as the head moderator doesn't want anybody to get help from these boards.

Sorry

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