rage addiction

[angelic1]

i think i am a rageaholic. i'd like to know if there are other people out there who feel that their anger is out of control. for me, conventional anger management techniques do not work all the time. when i get angry, it's like i couldn't stop. i have evil thoughts and a lot of hatred. i grew up exposed to my dad's anger, and i do not want to end up like him. any help or advice will be appreciated. thanks.

[reachout]

Angelic

Hello. I am not a rageaholic, but I do have a bit of advice. A lot of reading on this board shows us in black and white that any kind of addiction, no matter how severe, can be overcome when we reset our thinking patterns. Oh, brother! This is not an easy thing to do by any stretch of the imagination! It begins by recognizing the source of our current addictions.
(that can be read in black and white also....smiles)

You have already recognized what is probably the source of your addiction to anger.... issues with your dad. Good first step. Now, learn to deal with it. If the man ruled the first half of your life, why in the heck are you going to let him rule the next half?

In all kindness, I believe you are not allowing the lessons in anger management rule your thinking because you are being a mayrter (?) to your own anger and letting it soothe you and justify your ongoing rage. Let go of it and learn how to be happy with who you are. Ultimately, that is the choice that is our own obligation and we can not let it ride on anyone else.

Stay, or get back, to those anger management classes and start applying the lessons you learn there... not just in relationship to others, but to yourself. We have to start off with baby steps to heal. Start with the baby steps and you will be going full stride before you know it.

Good wishes
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[hastrix]

Hi Angelic1,

Everyone has to learn to control their emotions, anger is just one of them. I know you're talking about rage, an extreme form of anger. I too suffer from bouts of uncontrolled anger or rage. I take Risperdal (generic name: Risperidone--I put another name here yesterday, but it was incorrect; sorry for the confusion); it is very difficult to get out of control when you're on it.

You should also attend anger management courses and learn as much as possible about anger and how to control it without using drugs.

Furthermore, I highly recommend the following audio CD: "Don't Bite the Hook: Finding Freedom from Anger, Resentment, and Other Destructive Emotions" by Pema Chodron. Pema is a Buddhist nun who runs a Buddhist monastery in Nova Scotia, Canada. She is a Wise Woman. Most book stores will be able to special order this CD.

Don't be put off by her religion--she's really able to explain things so that even a layman can understand what she's talking about.

Good luck!

[hastrix]

Hi Angelic1,

It is me again. I believe that FEAR is the root of a lot of anger; first you feel fear than you react to it by becoming angry. The more intense the fear the more intense the anger.

When you get angry, try to identify what it is you're so fearful about.