Okay, this maybe isn't possible, but some years ago i was watching a documentary and they mentioned something about women who have the oral herpes virus in their system can pass it onto their babies during the birthing. What i'm wondering, is this possible with type 2?
You say you have been with your husband for 5yrs and i'm 'assuming' you got your herpes virus off of him? Perhaps you caught the herpes off him and have been carrying it all along, if then it could be passed onto your child during birth, perhaps your daughter has had it all along and it is a mere coincidence that you have gotten your o/b's a week apart?
What test did they do to determine whether your daughter actually had the virus? or did they simply 'assume' it was herpes due to your recent outbreak?
I know this is easier said than done, but please don't stress. I am fully aware of how this virus is to have and it can be most uncomfortable, but i figure it's worse if you have never had it and then suddenly get it in adult life, whereas most children who grow up with a certain condition tend to cope with it far better as they have known no difference from baby to adult.
If it is most definitely herpes, do you know which type, 1 or 2? There are ointments to relieve stinging and itching which can be applied. Do not blame yourself as that wont get you or your daughter anywhere as this is such an easy virus to catch/spread and this situation can happen to anybody. Keep strong and keep us posted on how you get along.