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Oh girl, my heart truly goes out to you. I totally agree that this surgery is the absolute WORST in the world. I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy. I too suffered tremendously with my first BM!!! Far, FAR worse than even natural childbirth!!! My first BM actually tore the sutures and I started bleeding immediately & had to go to the doctor to have it packed.
Anyway, what I can tell you is that even though you are 9 days into recovery, you are still very early in the recovery. What you are feeling/seeing is more than likely swelling from the surgery as well as the BM. For me, it took about 4 weeks before things started feeling/looking like a normal rectum down there. This is where the luke warm sitz baths w/epsom salts comes in as it does help with the swelling a bit. It certainly doesn't take it all away by any means, but it does help.
If by Monday, you are still concerned please do call your doctor again. If you are really concerned, it's always better to have it checked out just to be sure. That's what the doctor is paid for- the follow up care & addressing concerns of his patients. Good Luck!!