Hi Maya,
My experience 8-9 weeks post-bunionectomy was pretty similar to yours. I wore reg. shoes during the work day, and went back into the small velcro shoe at home in the evening. I just tried to keep a balance between babying myself and overdoing it. When I had some swelling at the office I put my foot up on my desk, as needed. (It's a rather informal place, luckily!) Most swelling occurred at the end of the day, which the Dr. assured me is completely normal. Tenderness was less and less over the next several weeks, and by week 13 or so, it was not very much at all.
Be well,
Chris