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Old 03-03-2003, 11:46 AM   #1
nite_angel
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Unhappy alcoholic husband

Hello, I am new to this board.
Married for 15 years to a wonderful man.
We have two very special children they excel in all the they do. they are 5 and 6 . I saty at home with them through the week. I do alterations and cakes out of the home and I have three children that a baby sit for during the week. On the weekends I do house clean for a company.
My husband is a good provider and always goes to work. He does not miss work due to alcohol. But he drinks aleast 12 beers . and if not a work day he will start at 9:30 in mornings. He never wants to go anywhere after 10:00 because he is drinking and its embarassing to ask him to go to anything to do with the kids because he smells of beer. He wants nothing to to with any of the families his or mine. except the ones that drinks with him. But he will help any neighbors that need him.Hewill not cominunicate with me and the children except to correct them or to ask me to please pick up some beer when I go to the Store.
I hate for him to not have the alcohol bacause he is in terrible mood and when his supply is gone he goes to bed. he will not eat because it messes up his drinking. he will wait until he's about out of beer. before he eats supper. PLEASE someone tell me what to do? I refuse to go to AA meetings because they are usually during the week and my children are my first priorty. But I want the best for everyone. I was not raised in this mess and I don't want my children to see their father like this and I also do want to raise them wihtout him
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Old 03-03-2003, 12:48 PM   #2
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Been there done that...but YOU have to be willing to change. YOU have to find the time to go to Al-Anon(not AA)and your children already see what is going on. It sounds like this is a hush-hush situation in your home? Have you discussed this problem with your husband. Any time his drinking interfers with life then it is safe to say he has a serious problem. If you absolutely will not go out of the house to Al-Anon then join an online chat group just for Al-Anon...get some reading material...just get yourself educated. If this upsets DH well tough. Whatever happens you can only change yourself and that is how will help save your children.
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Old 03-03-2003, 01:24 PM   #3
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I agree there will be no changes unless this issue is brought to light with your husband. You can be educated and get support for yourself online but HE is the one that has to want to take the step. Seems like the beer is running the house not you or your husband. Do a few searchs online and educate yourself and take it from there. Best of luck.
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Old 03-03-2003, 03:26 PM   #4
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AnnD and autumn angel, I really appreciate the time that you took to give me a few thought and to be able to really face reality. Thanks and have a great day.
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