It looks like you were just trying to find answers. Unfortunately, some people can be too touchy with one's choice of words. I didn't see your original wording because you changed it (apparently edited it).
By writing to you, I extend to you peace and comfort. People have to be careful to not be so judgemental, especially to young people that are just learning. On the internet, we don't know everyone's exact meanings or feelings. So, don't take someone's response to heart, that might have been hurtful to you. I'm sure that you are a good person that was just trying to write with the best of intentions.