Need suggestions for 12 yr. old daughter

[Aliece]

I am at a loss as to how to direct my daughter in the right direction. I will give her one instruction at a time eg: "please empty the trash". She will say, "OK" and walk right past it and head out the door or to whatever activity she wants to do. She has been unable to follow a simple chores chart, saying she forgets to look at it. She can take something out of a wrapper or container and throw the wrapper on the floor.
I will say, "Please pick that up and put it in the trash", and she looks at me like I have lost my mind and says, "What?" She is extremely impulsive, is always on the move and when she relates an event, she embelishes to her favor. She has had these behaviors since she was a pre-schooler. Behavior modification is a joke for my girl -she has great difficulty being consistant and I am tired of the constant reminders.

[mlgable]

Has she been evaluated first by your family doctor and then secondly by a psychiatrist or psychologist? The medical doctor needs to be seen first to rule out any medical problems and then have them refer you to a competent psych professional so that you both can get some help to straighten out the problems. Since you have not been able to get any results on your own then it is certainly time to seek professional help. Good Luck.

[alazay]

I am 21 now, but that sounds just like me when i was younger, my parents never understood, but I really forgot to do little things that they would ask me to do. I was on and off my med. for ADD when I was younger, and these problems always got worse when I was off. When a person has ADD, it is so hard to understand what they go through unless you have it to. I still am like that now if I don't take my medication. I think you should have your daughter tested, because if you get her on some kind of medication while she is young, it will benefit her later. If she doesn't have it, she might grow out of it.

[smackliet]

ADD often comes w/ opisitional difiance dis-order. I would take her to a psychiatrist.
I have suffert years of torture before i finally took him toa psych Dr. finally he was properly diognosed. He had bi-polar with adhd. The drugs used for adhd cannot be giver to a kid with bi-polar they made him violent. All that time I thought I had given birth to some evil being. After he was diognosed and treated with the correct meds I found I had a very loving child. It took 12 years and each year he got worse. Now at 13 he is a different boy all together. Resperdal for the bp and Adderall for adhd.
Dont rely on a pediatrician or general practition....Go strait to a psych.

[steph70]

Some of these scenarios sound like my son. He's 8 1/2 now, and is having such trouble at school. The teacher has cut down on the amount of work he has to do because he just doesn't have any concentration/attention span to sit still and do it. He would much rather day dream, or more likely, watch the other children. If he's in a room by himself, you'd think he'd work better, but then he'd daydream, play with his paper and pencil, whatever. He's been to the doctor for a physical a few weeks ago, and since I've not heard anything regarding the urine and blood tests, I assume everything is fine there. He's also going to see a psychologist in three weeks. Hopefully they'll be able to fill us in on what's going on. With all the looking around online I've been doing the last few months though...he seems to have some symptomos of ADD...some symptoms of dyslexia...and possibly something they refer to as a visual learner. We're realizing he seems to have an almost photographic memory. If he forgets something, he'll look in his book from school, but be doing it in his mind. He's constantly having to be reminded to do some things, like when he has a slice of cheese in the living room to put the wrapper in the garbage. He's a smart kid...knows his stuff at school...he's in grade three, and on an assesment they did at school, he's averaging high grade two to mid grade three scores overall. His printing is grade one level, because he doesn't have the patience to do it, and he may be a perfectionist, so he gets upset when he sees it doesn't look great. His reading is a grade 6 level! The dyslexia aspects aren't so much interfering with his reading...more a case of reversing some letters, and more numbers. I've 'bout run out of ways to get him to do his homework without it taking all night, so his teacher said after an hour call it quits if he's actually done some. I don't know what else to do...I hope the psychologist can help us out, and hopefully without meds, but...we'll see I suppose
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