Re: Is there guides to kill shyness or social anxiety
I used to be like that. The only way you'll overcome social anxiety is to become just that - social. I was never the conversationalist, so I decided to take myself out of my comfort zone, which meant surrounding myself with more people and introducing myself and talking to everyone. It would be a lot less stressful and embarrassing if you became friends with everyone in your class. When the teacher asks for volunteers to pass out papers or whatever, volunteer and do it so you'll become more comfortable with your peers and being infront of your class. A little trick when giving an oral presentation is to look just above everyone's head, so it looks like you're maintaining good eye contact with your audience. The more you surround yourself with people, the more comfortable you'll become. You need to open up to people more.
As far as girls go... Girls love to talk, man. Ask her about her goals, likes/dislikes, her past and the topics will branch out from there. Keep eye contact with her, smile and show her that you're interested in what she's saying. A girl will give you clues and leads as to what she likes, try relating yourself to the things she says and likes, and show her that you have common interests. Be spontaneous and compliment her from time to time, but don't overdo it because she may feel like you're doing it just to score points. See how she responds to your compliments and read her body language, because sometimes a girl's body language speaks louder than the words that come out of her mouth. She may say one thing but her body is saying something else. I've noticed that girls love to throw mixed signals and they love attention. Show her that you're paying attention. This is just basic. It depends largely on the setting in which you approach a girl too, are you talking about approaching a girl in class or what? This is the nice guy approach there are other approaches to drive girls crazy, but this is a good way to start. Ask her about herself and the topics will branch out from there, trust me.
Last edited by ForgottenFaith; 01-23-2005 at 11:25 PM.