Re: red hands
Have you noticed when your hands are red, are you cold? Or, are they numb at all? It could be a circulation thing, or something to do with your body temperature. My hands get red when I am cold/chilly.
As for how sandpapery and dry they feel, get a really good moisturizer. There is one from Neutragenia called Norwegian Formula. Fisherman love it because it is so moisturizing. It is kind of sticky and not easy to put on but, it still works. Otherwise, try some of the dove products. I think they have a hand lotion. The Dove line of products has some of the most moisture rich formulas for little out of your wallet. Perhaps, if your hands are properly moisturized, they will stop getting red. My recommendation is for you to use a lotion several times a day, especially after your hands are washed, after doing any dishes, and after you shower. One other, slightly more expensive product I can suggest is Aveda's Hand Relief lotion. You can get Aveda products from a nice hair salon and, there may even be an Aveda store in your local mall. You might search online and see if you can find out where they sell it in your area if you don't already know. The thing about this product is that it is so soothing, smells so good and, best of all, somehow, after you wash your hands...even a couple times, your hands stay moisturized. I don't know how that works. I can only guess that it has something to do with the vitamins in the formula and how well they work themselves deep into your skin to retain moisture. My hands tend to get dry kind of easily so, I usually have to use a lotion after each time I wash them throughout the day. But, if I forget to take a lotion with me when I am out and running around, then I use the ladies room and wash my hands, if I have used the Aveda previously that day, I don't have to worry about using a lotion.
Ok, I hope this helps! Take care and keep in touch.