I am usually very liberal & easy going with my children, but NOT about smoking. My children are 21, 17, 14, 8 and 5. I have told them all that smoking is not an option. "If you smoke, you will lose your allowance forever. You will never drive the family car. You will have extra chores. You will do your own laundry..."
I have never smoked, but my mother is presently dying from emphysema. I grew up in a house full of smokers and it was disgusting.
Many of my oldest child's friends smoke, but she does not. She has told me that my threats worked. (I meant them) So, far the next two have not even tried a cig.
My children know that if they were to smoke cigarettes, it would kill me. (My oldest has admitted to smoking pot a few times and this really does not bother me...it's rare.
I would say to your daughter: "Daughter, this is how your life is going to be if you smoke and that is how your life will be if you don't smoke." Do smoke - perks are gone. Don't smoke - perks remain. Then stand firm!
Make it in her own short-term best interest not to smoke. (She will thank you later)
So far, this is working for my children. I have picked my battles...color your hair green, shave your head, wear whatever you like...BUT NO STOGIES!
Good-luck.
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15 yr. old daughter has started to smoke 
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