Re: ??? Please help!!!!
I'm sorry to hear about your friend's injury, but glad she has a good friend like you. Neckpatient gave you great information about incomplete injuries, so I would just like to add some personal experience if you don't mind. I had an incomplete spinal cord injury at C5-6 a long time ago, when I was working as an auto mechanic. It took me 8 months to learn how to sit up, and even longer to do things like feed myself and brush my teeth. Like Neckpatient said, good rehab is really important, and only time will tell how good or bad your friend's recovery will be. I hope she recovers everything.
I was lucky. Though my rehab hospital wasn't the best (they kept telling me what I couldn't do), I went to a local college that had a wheelchair sports team, and I started trying all these crazy sports about 11 months after my injury. I played basketball (I'm terrible), sledge hockey and swimming (too cold) and then found wheelchair racing. The other athletes taught me how to use what was left of my body, and I got stronger. Eventually, I ended up travelling the world as a member of the US Disabled Sports Team. I learned how to walk a little bit with crutches, and became an attorney.
It took me about 3 years and a lot of help from my friends to get into shape, so please include your friend in everything you can. Most of my friends are able bodied, and most of them forget I can't walk, even though they took care of me during those early, difficult years. I will pray that your friend makes a full recovery. In the meantime, you might try to find a local wheelchair sports association, once her doctors say it's okay. They work you harder than the physical therapists, but the payoff is worth it.