shizzy & oliver - Spinal Cord Disorders Message Board

bounce · 03-30-2003, 04:27 PM

hey you two,

not seen a post from you to in a long time does that mean things are good and you are out enjoying life or are you layed up in pain

i posted awhile ago that i had my last check up with surgeon and i have healed so im pleased with that and also i can go to try anything i want with caution of course so i might be back to milking those cows yet??
i still have pain days but try to stay away from the pain killers the weather here on nz is changeable somedays warm overs cold and damp and dont i know it
i had a bad cold and it was first thought it was flu as i was in pain my back ribs and coughing made it worst and the sneezing well that was followed with bad lanugue
so hope you post to let us know how it is with you for now takecare

Bounce

nanna02 · 03-31-2003, 04:37 AM

Hi Bounce !

Sorry it's not Shizzy or Oliver , but you'll remember me I guess .. I just couldn't resist saying I can see you're still bouncing along !! Wish I was !!..

I'm going Back on Wednesday to see my N/Surgeon as my legs are not going hardly at all.. and I can't walk up the steep path , so I'm scared to go anywhere !.. see what he comes up with . I am assuming I'll end up in Rehab or hospital for tests ; Who knows ?

I'm going to lose it shortly between being on my own here 24/7, and my husband not accepting what's happening with me , physically. .. He says/thinks he IS, but underneath he's not .
It's such a stress on him, he needs to get counselling , as I've said in the past , but he won't do anything about it ...Brings it out on me.. My sister is now helping to support me morally, as much as possible,but I'm nearly going to lose it soon, so they'd better get me some proper help to deal with Him !
Well, it's been a bad few days , I know the sun will shine again soon, so Thanks for letting me say how I feel .
Hope You are managing ok, apart from the Flu and the Weather etc.?
Love Belle

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melanie dawn · 03-31-2003, 09:34 AM

Hi Belle,
I just read your post, and I feel so sad for you. Pain and disfunction are so isolating arn't they. It's like you stop being part of the world and enter a different realm. It is such a lonely place to be. Thank goodness for these boards, where we can find true understanding.
You have been through so much, with strength , and courage,, and still not lost your humour. ANd of course you're right about our partners, they try to understand, but i don't think they really can. Councilling would be really beneficial, but alot of men are programmed to keep everything in. I know , my hubby is the same, we did go to councelor at one point, but he never said a word when we were there. Made it kind of pointless. But saying all of that, they are still there for us.
please try to keep your spirits up, and I know it is hard to do. Has your Dr. tried an antidepressant for you? Sometimes we need that little bit of help.
My thoughts and prayers are with you, I hope you get some help and answers too.

Mel

bounce · 04-01-2003, 02:32 PM

hey belle,

yes i remember you i have been following youre post youre having a rough ride family can be hurtfull when you need them the most
my hubby suffered with what i went thourgh coz he was going through it with me and i acknowledged that, my asking him like you to your hubby to go to his doc and eventaully he did, men they like to bottle things up and think they can do it and get through it all.
its hard for them to see us their loved ones in pain and they can not help
it is also tuff on us when we see them suffering and try to help them with no willingness on there side
give him time does he have a male friend that he talks to he might open up to him my hubby talked alot with a friend it bugged me first coz he wasnt sharing it with me but then i thought well at least he talking about it
good luck and i will continue to follow your posts and i hope you find some relief soon
takecare bounce

winged phantom · 04-01-2003, 03:43 PM

Belle, I was in a store yesterday when all of a sudden I became aware of the song they were playing. Then I immediately thought of you:

"I get knocked down, but I get up again; You're never going to keep me down"

(With apologies: Tubthumping - Chumbawamba) One site even plays the music! Just keep singin' it! I think we should all adopt this as our theme song. At least it's catchy and uplifting.

Have a good day. Thinking of you,
wr