my 8 year old is stressed
My 8 year old is stressed and I do not know what to do. To give a brief background.... My child is a young 8 year old. He is small, has 'failure to thrive' and had a problem with his kidneys since birth. He is an extremely bright child and is a 'good' boy. You can take him anywhere. He is always polite and mannerly. Sometimes I think he tried to please everyone and forgets about himself.
My husband has a child from a pervious marriage. He is a nice child but has no direction. Dropped out of school, smokes, drinks and has no job. He likes the fact that he gets to sleep all day and that his mother is okay with that. Because of this my husband is EXTREMELY hard and critical of our son. They are two completely different people wit different parents. There is not a day that goes by that he does not yell at our child and makes him cry. He makes my child feel bad about himself. He went through a small period of of bedwetting and now stutters. Sometimes terribly. He says that I am too soft. I say that he is too hard. My child is a soft person. He likes to read and build stuff.
To sum it up. I do not know what to do. We are in therapy and try to work with his doctors suggestion. However my husband does not feel that he is wrong all the time and sometimes refuses to bend. He sometimes is a bit 'gruff' and speaks with a harsh tone naturally. He will say things like 'he will listen'. However, he has always going out of his way to make sure that he has everything he needs (especially medically, speech, ot, pt, therapy, etc..) My child is now somewhat scared of his father and stutters. We have just began therapy but I still feel terrible. Does anyone have any other suggestions that we could benefit from to help us through this trying time.
Last edited by joce1971; 08-08-2008 at 06:21 PM.
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