Hmm Kim sounds like my parents. My dad feels the overwhelming need to look superior to the rest of us, even just in his own mind. narvb, trust me from growing up with it. Your kids are better off without a mother than they are with one like that, My parents didnt get divorced till I was 20 and me and my brother had bothed moved out. My dad still thinks its my moms fault for moving out. Personally I couldnt understand why they werent divorced soooner.
Its hard as hell on kids to know that one parent is trying to make it work and the other just wont. I dont think your kids will blame you if you get a seperation for a while, I would just start preparing yourself for the inevitability of whats going to happen.
Unless something seriously changes even if you do stick togehter till your kids move out are you gonna live with her on your own? Start getting affairs in order if nothing else so should you decide to do something you'll be ready for whatever should happen.
Personally thats one of my biggest fears is that I'll end up being like that and ennd up like my father. Scares the bejesus outa me.
I would just refuse to put up with it! Don't let her embarrass you or put you down. Show her how it feels. She will continue until you show he she can't get away with it. She is like a child trying to get away with what she can. I know others will disagree with me but boy I would get her back with the same kind of treatment and give her a good *** chewing!
Hi i was reading your post and i really feel for you..you do sound like you're at the end of your tether and unless you do speak to her or find some way of sorting it i can imagine you will just end up going mad and maybe just leaving all of a sudden..theres only so much a person can take.
I know that stress and anxiety can bring on many other symptoms and i wouldnt want you uto become ill from it. Have you really talked to your wife about your feelings, like maybe say to her later you would like a chat and she probably wont like it but as a human you need to be listened to. then she will have some time to prepare maybe...
Then keep calm and let her SEE how upset you are. Tell her that you have been through so much and that shows you love her as you are staying with her and want to work it out.
Does she go mad at the kids too or just you?
Have you had some time away together for a weekend, or just a change of scenery?
She does sound like she has low esteem and this does make you seem very grouchy..give her compliments now and then, try bulid her up. You probably wont want to but its worth it maybe..
My husbands ex-wife is the exact same way, he new after being married to her for 2 years that he couldn't stay with her, but stayed with her more years because of his daughter. She convinced him that he had the problem and he was depressed. It was a total shock to her when he wanted the divorce, she thought the marriage was perfect. We still have to live by her rules with his daughter. His daughter is 9 years old and she already realizes how unstable her mother is and that her dad would not have been happy living with her mom
