Dad, 59, had hemorrhagic stroke 2 months ago.

Marchtomay

Hi. I've been browsing this forum since all of this happened, and finally decided to post. I'm sorry if this is incredibly long, or jumbled up. I'm just going to jump in.

My Dad is 59 and has been married to my Mom for 42 years. He had a stroke on October 5th. I was not home when I got the call, but I rushed to the house and followed the ambulance. He had a deep bleed but did not need surgery. His blood pressure at one point got to 233. He was in the ICU for 4-7 days, I really don't remember. It is all a blur. He moved from ICU to neurology floor to inpatient rehab (basically a nursing home).

His mind is entirely there. He watches jeopardy in his room and is an ace at it. He's always told me little facts about things (wars, governments, old music) and he can still do that. I'm sure there are some things that are different, but he really doesn't feel all too different.

He is currently still in a wheelchair and won't be returning home for at lest another couple weeks. He was paralyzed on one side and has regained movement in his leg (he can ALMOST walk) but his arm is still paralyzed (w minor, minor movement & feeling). He can't toilet himself yet as he is still in a wheelchair, so he uses a bedside urinal.

I am amazed and baffled by how his recovery has gone. I've read the statistics. I don't know why he was lucky enough to survive, but I'm eternally grateful to have him for a while longer.

I am very, very afraid there will be a repeat stroke, though. I am moving to a new state one time zone away in January/February, and I'm afraid something will happen and I won't be there. I've talked to a doctor I know and he said he doesn't think there's much chance so long as his blood pressure stays down. He said he thinks he's one of the lucky ones. I guess I'm wondering... what is the likelihood of another stroke with things like this, and was it good or bad that he didn't receive surgery? Should I postpone the move, will he need me? He will have a caregiver for 3 hours everyday Sunday to Sunday, and my Mom, who doesn't work due to a nervous breakdown she had a few years ago. She is also not fully recovered. My brother lives a town over from them, but he struggles with alcohol issues, leaving him unreliable.

I'm very worried, sorry if this is all a jumbled up mess. Thanks in advance, for reading.