Re: Mother had stroke Father can't accept it
This is typically a normal, but very difficult reaction. I have worked with stroke patient's for the past twenty years and I refer to this as "creating a 'new normal'". For example, this will never be normal in the old sense ever again. There will be references to "life before the stroke" and "life after the stroke." However, while these are relatively easy concept for us to understand when we're not the one in the middle of the tornado, it is extremely difficult for people to accept who are dealing with these issues on a daily basis, who have wonderful memories in which they retreat, and thoughtful and beautiful times that they can recall.
I know this is so difficult for you and your siblings but you may want to go on-line and contact either the National Stroke Association or the American Heart Association and see if they have stroke support groups in your area in which you can get your father involved. I know, he may be the kind of man that will never open up to other people and he may not have to. He just needs to see that there are others going through the same thing he is. He may eventually find someone with whom he can begin to talk about these things, a guy who is experiencing the same losses as is your dad. This may be a good start. chris