and welcome to our family of stroke survivors and their families.
I am Janet, and I am a survivor of four strokes, and I am in my ninth year of recovery, I can completely relate to your husbands great need for lots of sleep. Although we are all different in our recovery, I was also one who spent the first three years asleep much of the time. Of course, I am not implying that your husband will need anywhere near that amount of time sleeping, I just want you to know it is something very common.
Although Tim has shared so much of his experience with you, maybe I can share a few more things that will hopefully help you and your husband. Please excuse me if I repeat some things he already mentioned...once I get writing, I can just go on and on..
Each stroke is so different, so each of us have very different needs for recovery. In my case my strokes were scattered all over my brain, and I needed to have each of those sites to have the blood supply re-routed and that took a LONG time. (Of course these are all things I know now, but did not know then). In that time, our brains shut down most of the functions we typically use all the time. Without using those functions, our brains can heal, and much of that happens during sleep. When the time comes that his brain is ready to carry on, it will slowly waken him, and those lost functions will reappear. All this is a slow process, but entirely necessary.
It took me a good 4-5 years before I could begin to think of typing again, and when I did, I came here to learn. What I found here was definitely the greatest experience...from those very humble beginnings, I found my place here, somewhere I was understood and supported. i have made it my purpose to stay here and try to pass on what I have learned to others like yourself,
There is so much information that you will never hear from your doctors, they just do not have the time or the experience first hand. I hope you will come back with all of your questions and concerns, and we will gladly help you through this very difficult time.
Have peace in your husbands sleep time...he is healing. The more chance he has now, the greater his recovery will likely be. Our brains are incredible things that, given the time, will bring your husband back from this trauma.
I am one of many I have met here, who think our strokes let us much better people than we were before. For me, I have become a much more patient, and grateful person...I appreciated those little things we take for granted until they are taken away in one moment. The earlier we can try to take all the lessons the strokes give us, the more we can grow to be our best selves.
We look forward to our next conversation. I try to come on every day, so see you soon!