Hi ceedeebee, I like your name by the way...
First, I would like to thank you for reaching out to others here on the board. We are all here to support one another and there is nothing better than the family members of stroke survivors to meet up and share their experiences with each other. Thank you for that...
As far as your mom and her chewing tobacco goes, I would keep her happy at this point. At 72 years old and having just survived a stroke, taking away her tobacco just seems like too much. If you can find a way to keep it a minimum, that would be preferable, but having her begging for it is just too much.
Whether tobacco was the cause of her stoke or not, I doubt anyone can be sure of that. Whether it is harmful, we know that it is, but after a lifetime with it, I am sure the act of stopping cold turkey would be very stressful, and for that reason alone, the last thing she needs is added stress in her recovery.
There is enough stress in the fact that her life has changed in a matter of minutes, and all that is entails to recover. I also wouldn't want your father to feel all alone in this, so I would take him aside and you two make a plan for how much and how often.
It sounds like you are a caring and kind family, and your mother needs you love and support more than ever right now and in the months to follow. What ever you feel is right in your heart, I would follow.
Funny, I just had a little visual of your mom as a three year old chewing tobacco with her dad, sitting on the porch in his lap...Cute
Those were the days!