Re: my dad's stroke
Welcome to your family of stroke survivors. I am saddened to hear of your dad’s stroke. There are many here that have suffered strokes, some lesser and some more serious than your dad. Early on in my stroke recovery, I stop playing the comparison game because, no two strokes are ever the same.
On 18/03/2010 I suffered a clot in the brain stem in the pons area. At first my wife was told “if he survives he’ll never walk.” My right hand side was completely paralysed and numb, I was 52 at the time, healthy and quite fit, and there was no reason for the stroke. My brother and I ran a building company at the time. Thing were not going so well, the doctors said it may have been all the business pressure I was under.
Today I am working as a building inspector, writing short reports and driving about 150km a day in heavy traffic. It has been a long and hard journey, which has been made easier with the support of all the good people I’ve meet here.
I found the medical fraternity will give you the worst possible outcome every time. You have to stimulate your father senses as much as you can. Read, talk and even sing to him. Have meaning full sound around him all the time. Massage his body using material of different textures. Watch sports on T.V. and carry on as if he was in good health.
As time goes on your dad will improve, how much and when, no one can answer that. It a horrible place to be for both your dad and the whole family. The first ‘movement’ I had, were in the form of little twitches, which started about six weeks after the stroke. They appear and disappear at random.
He has to rely on his fighting spirit and will to survive to get through this rough patch. Some days it will seem that he taken one step forward then two steps back, he cannot be disheartened, it happens to everyone. You have to be patient with him, his brain has been hit an almighty blow. It needs a lot of time recover and heal.
I hope I’ve been some help. Please keep in touch.
All the best.