Re: Post Stroke Options for a parent
Hello to you Stevensone, and welcome to our group of stroke survivors and their families. We are so happy to have you with us. I think you will find this a wonderful place for support and encouragement. We all understand how difficult it can be for family members to make all the adjustments required for stroke recovery... emotionally and physically.
In my experience, although I wanted to go home, I knew I could not for a while. I slept a good part of the first year, and had to have someone with me at all times, just to guard me against falls, which I had everyday. I could not burden my parents with my care, except for spending lots of time with my 9 year old son. I did qualify for in home services, which many states provide, under the name of aging and independent services. You might look up Georgias programs online. (That criteria is having limited funds).
Having both your parents with you for enough time to assess the situation sounds like a great idea. Strokes last a second but do change your life forever. I would want to make sure your mother knows what needs he will have, and learn where she might need help. The last thing you want is for your mother to become overwhelmed and alone.
You could perhaps help them create a routine that they can take home with them. Your dad will likely need physical therapy, regular medications, proper diet and visits to his doctor. At home, he will need lots of understanding and emotional support. You will need to manage his anger and protect your mother from this difficult aspect of recovery. We all have to go through that part. There is often depression, anxiety and fear.
A big part of recovery is the acceptance that we need help, and that is one hard thing to do for most of us. Particularly those of us who have always been independent and healthy. I would venture to say men find that even harder.
If he will not be happy unless he is home, and your mother wants that too, that is another story. You may need to take a leave of absence if possible to be there and get them going with some help. The help could be for you mother, to get the housework done for her, to prepare meals, or to help dad with personal needs bathing, dressing etc. Seek whatever benefits their insurance company offers and inquire about all county and state aid you can get.
The one thing about stroke recovery that we all learn...it takes a long time to recover, but with the right attitude and a certain zest for life, recovery can be an amazing process. It is wonderful that you have reached out for help, as a loving a caring daughter.
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