It appears you have not yet Signed Up with our community. To Sign Up for free, please click here....



Sudden Infant Death Syndrome (SIDS) Message Board
Post New Thread   Closed Thread
LinkBack Thread Tools
Old 04-11-2009, 10:49 AM   #1
Newbie
(female)
 
Join Date: Apr 2009
Location: Kelowna b.c. canada
Posts: 2
Sunshyne91 HB User
My sons birthday was yesterday

I am new to this, but I wanted to share with people who could understand how I feel. My son would have been 18 years old yesterday if he had not died of SIDS. I still take it very hard every year, and it does not feel like 18 years have gone by- it still feels so much sooner than that. I wonder often if it is because I never had any more children after he died, he was my first and only child, and I loved him so much, he was my world, not a day goes by that I do not think about him and what he might be like today at 18! I am saddened when people judge me and tell me that it should have gotten easier with time, it has gotten easier to live without him, but the pain is still there on special occasions. I still talk to him like he is my guardian angel, and I still feel like a piece of me is missing and always will be. I know it has been a long time, but the pain is still so fresh on his birthdays, I get so sad and a little angry when I am the only person who even remembers his birthday anymore- I just do not want him to be forgotten. Sunshyne91

 
The following user gives a hug of support to Sunshyne91:
ckeller (11-17-2010)
Sponsors Lightbulb
   
Old 05-14-2009, 02:29 AM   #2
NVD NVD is offline
Senior Veteran
(female)
 
Join Date: Apr 2007
Location: US
Posts: 646
NVD HB User
Re: My sons birthday was yesterday

I wish I had seen this thread last month...
I'm so sorry for the pain you were feeling when you wrote this thread. I don't think that you should be 'over' your son's death. You will never be 'over' his death till the day you take your last breath. I think our society is so uncomfortable with grief...but when you're walking through it, you know that you will never be done with it.
I lost my daughter April 5, 2008 to SIDS. She was five weeks old. It's been a little over a year now, and each day is a struggle. Most of my energy is spent just getting through the days. In February, she would have been a year old. On what would have been her first birthday, I delivered her baby brother. He is my fifth baby (including Arianna)...and my grief is no different than yours. It hurts to the core...every fibre of my being is screaming in pain. My heart aches for her, my arms ache to hold her, my ears ache to hear her...I could go on forever. With that being said...I guess it's not easier no matter what side of the fence you're on--just give yourself credit for surviving such a tragic loss. Let yourself grieve the way you need to....no matter how many years it's been. I truly believe that there is no greater loss than to lose a child...no matter how, or how old that child was. It's so un-natural...the order is all wrong...parent's shouldn't have to burry their children. And I understand how important it is to keep his memory alive. 18 years doesn't take that away! You give me hope that in 18 years, I'll still be here, still surviving, although, still missing my baby. Thank you.((((Hugs))))....hope things are a little easier for you now.
Amber

Last edited by NVD; 05-14-2009 at 02:31 AM.

 
Sponsors Lightbulb
   
Old 01-16-2010, 09:53 PM   #3
Senior Member
(female)
 
Join Date: Dec 2003
Location: Mo.
Posts: 132
her70cuda HB User
Re: My sons birthday was yesterday

I lost my child in 1991. It still hurts.

 
Closed Thread

Similar Threads
Thread Thread Starter Board Replies Last Post
need quick advice on SSI and my sons needs... dolejaly Disabilities 2 04-06-2009 04:15 AM
Please help! Relationship Issue with my sons father!! AJsMommy Relationship Health 10 08-08-2008 05:31 PM
Feeling sad on my birthday....... June 25. summer1979 Relationship Health 6 06-25-2007 11:00 AM
I think my parents are going to foget my birthday Dang12 Relationship Health 30 02-22-2007 06:35 PM
my sons half brother home from prison Felicia65 Family & Friends of Addicts and Alcoholics 13 09-03-2005 12:53 PM




Thread Tools

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is Off
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are Off
Pingbacks are Off
Refbacks are Off




Sign Up Today!

Ask our community of thousands of members your health questions, and learn from others experiences. Join the conversation!

I want my free account

All times are GMT -7. The time now is 10:44 PM.



Site owned and operated by HealthBoards.comô
Terms of Use © 1998-2014 HealthBoards.comô All rights reserved.
Do not copy or redistribute in any form!