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Catriona, thanks for you thoughtful reply. I hoped that the fact that a forum for men's infertility would exist might encourage men to talk. When a guy looks and sees that only women are talking about infertility, he sees that it is not acceptable for a guy to speak of these things openly. If he sees a specific forum, labeled for his infertility, then maybe we will open some communications.

One way to help you understand the difference in thinking between men and women is to look at their behavior. When out in a group, women quite often ask each other to go to the restroom together, but guys never do that. Even this simple situation is too sexually charged for men to handle easily, so they avoid it. Sad, but true. Like wise, women can talk more openly and honestly about sexual problems. Guys just talk in general, make jokes and pretend it isn't happening to them.

I was aware that the "men's health" forum exists but if you look at the "infertility forum" it references, as an alternative site, only the "women's health" forum and it does not reference the "men's health" forum. My point was that most people assume infertility is a womans problem and so it was obvious to reference the "women's health" but no one even thought to reference the mens'. This bias even extends into infertility clinics, but that is another story.

Of course you are correct that if only a few men will talk then the forum won't be useful. But I think it is worth a try.