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Old 03-15-2003, 10:52 AM   #1
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ok well, I've been talking to this guy over the internet for a few months now, and although he's 'a lot' older than me, we really like each other and I wouldn't be lying to say that we're in love. He wants me to visit him in about 2 months, I'm 19 and the only problem is I don't know how to tell my mother as to what I want to do. She's really old fashioned but she says I can do whatever I like ( although I know this would make her hit the roof ). I'm dying to meet this guy and I'm so scared to tell her I want to. Thing is, she thinks all guys on the internet are pedophile serial rapists/killers who leave girls like me in ditches. *sigh* What do I do? How can I tell her that I want to visit him without her deciding to disown her own daughter???? HELP!

 
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Old 03-15-2003, 12:19 PM   #2
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Whimsygurl, please think this out first.A person over the internet can pretend to be anyone they want!I`m not saying this guy`s not legit, but just be careful. If you decide to meet him take a friend or family member with you,and be in a public place at all times. By the way your mom`s thinking is not a bit old fashioned(at least not about this issue).just my opinion.Good luck.

 
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Old 03-15-2003, 12:49 PM   #3
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Purple is right about this one..it's perfectly okay for you to want to meet him, but you need to be smart about it.
Here are two options:

1) Take a friend/family member with you when you meet him the first time.

2) Meet him in a very public place, take a cell phone, and let a loved one know where you are meeting him.

Your mom is just being a mom. My mom would probably bust a cap if she thought I was meeting someone off the internet (and in this day and age you can never be too careful!) Whatever you decide, be careful and have fun..good luck!

Kat

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Old 03-16-2003, 01:05 AM   #4
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You need to be careful. This person could be anyone. Like the posters above said, take someone with you and make sure you meet in a public place.

 
Old 03-16-2003, 09:33 PM   #5
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Everyone here is right. Take every precaution you can. I met a couple guys from the net and I am so lucky that they were everything they said they were and we are all the best of friends today 2 years later we still chat daily and see each other about every few months. But alot of them are bad and they lie I just got lucky I guess. Take a friend and ALWAYS meet in a public place. Take care.
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Old 03-20-2003, 05:48 PM   #6
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There are a few things to consider first. first dont rush into this.

how long have you talked to this person?
have you talked on the phone?
if you have only talked a month or so I would wait.
PLEASE meet in a public place the first time.
Although it can be dangerous and scarry it can be great also.
I met my husband on the internet the best thing we ever did. http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/love2.gif we talked on the phone for several months before we met. and met with my friend in a public place.
you also said he was older than you how much older just curious?
be carteful and good luck
as for your mother let her know you are taking a friend and meeting in a public place to help ease your mind.

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