| | Jailed 18 yr old back at home -I'm bad guy, my husband good guy
I have an 18 year old son who has been in and out of the detention center for many different reasons, but they include stealing from his work place, attempted burglary, copying and distributing fake money. Here's my problem - He does not admit to this, but for the past few years, I have had pieces of jewelry that dissappeared. I would attribute it to my forgetfulness. Before X-mas, I found that almost all of my jewelry was gone. Three days later, I found in my purse holding on to the little jewelry I had left. I called the cops and pressed charges, but the district state attorney's office did not pursue. He is back home, and once again, a piece of jewelry is missing.
I have given him the dealine of August 15th to move out of the house (he's still in HS), but he has not made any attempts to look for a job.
Today, I reminded him of his committment to do so, and because an argument insued, my husband backed my son up and said I was wrong for confronting him.
I am so tired of being the "bad guy", but my husband NEVER does anything to him - including administering consequences, or remembering that our son is not meeting the agreed upon rules.
The question I have is this: is it true that later these same kids appreciate the "stricter" parent - I feel so alone and angry -
he was raised properly, but chose to hang around kids that I did not approve of, but my husband insisted that there was nothing we can do about it. I have come to realize that it wasnt his friends, but him - and that is so sad.