I'm 18 years old and still have trouble talking to girls 1-on-1 (phone,in-person, or on computer). I know some of you will probably tell me to just ask questions about their interests to get to know them. But that's not what I mean. This may seem kind of hard to explain..but just in GENERAL, I can't talk to any girls, unless it's about school or work. I don't know what to say to keep a conversation going. Really short "chit-chat" is far as I can go. If theres 2 girls, and myself, I'm fine. Someone please help me out.
[This message has been edited by Andrew29 (edited 04-15-2003).]
You are not alone. Some days, if I am really energetic, I can talk to everyone about a lot, but most of the time its hard to keep a conversation going with girls that aren't my close friends. I hate having to talk about school, because no one wants to think about that when they don't have to. All I can say is try to be yourself, tell jokes, mess around with her etc. Good luck!
Andrew,
That's so tough. LOTS of guys have the same problem. The best advice I can give is to ask girls about themselves. Most people enjoy talking about themselves and girls are no different. Ask them about their interests--what do they like to do?
Above all, relax. It takes time and practice. (I know, that's not what you want to hear.)
Thanks, the advice is good, but... The advice about teasing, telling jokes, messing around, asking questions about interests seems to be things I should do to a girl I "like". Like, I just want to able to keep a regular conversation going about regular things.