I know that a lot of people will say that looks don't matter. However, when you're in high school, they definetly do. I have alot, I mean a lot (over 40), of little tiny red marks all over my face left over from acne. I just want to know if girls find these red marks a turnoff. I like this girl, and my belief is that if i didn't have these marks, she would go out with me. But I don't want her to feel bad if she turns me down because of these stupid red marks. From far away, it's fine, but up close, it actually is quite disgusting. So, from a female's point of view, are they are turnoff?
P.S.- The red marks look like very shallow pits.
[This message has been edited by Andrew29 (edited 05-29-2003).]
No, no. I don't know her at all, nor have I actually asked her out. I'm just making an ASSUMPTION that these red marks keep me from getting a girlfriend in GENERAL. My reasoning: Past experiences; Few months back, I asked a girl out when it was kinda dark (at a party), so my face looked fine and she said yes. She definetly seemed interested to date me. I met her again a week later during the day and she said she had a boyfriend.
I know not all people are superficial, but we're high school students... so, unfortunetly, A LOT of people still are.
If you're saying you dont want to ask her cos you think she would be in an awkward position then that is her problem not yours. She shouldnt be so god damned shallow. And besides if she won't go out with you cos of your Acne then she isn't really going to be a very nice girl, and no doubt one of those really irratating prissy pissy girls who let little things matter. You know Megab1tches!
Maybe try to make friends with her first, if you can. When people first meet, there is little to go on to judge the other person, other than how they look. If you have gotten to know each other a little and she has had a chance to get to know the real you, she will be more likley to overlook your red dots.
i don't think these girls are worth it! i am a girl so i know how we can be big <deleted>! if they can't see past what you think are your flaws, which personally i think are absolutely nothing, then what is so great about them! i mean we all have them but we shouldn't let them take over how we feel, which includes are level of self-confidence. i mean i use to feel that way to , infact i used to pretend i was sick so i wouldn't have to got to peoples parties! i know how you feel. but just think of all the great things about you on the outside and the inside! hope i could help!till next time!
[This message has been edited by tntmod5 (edited 06-03-2003).]
personally i have dated a couple of guys with acne, and personally it doesnt bother me! As long as they have a great personality, you can be really hot with or without all those red marks! Don't let it be discouraging, everybody gets them at one point or another, and i really dont think ppl care.
hey! I'm a girl and i say that little red marks on a guys face might be an issue for some girls but for me i dont mind i mean hey some people cant help it and we all have little things that are bothersome about us! and that one girl that turned u down is stupid because well, first of all looks arent all that matters and secondly that was a bad excuse!
how can you possibly know that the marks on your face will keep the girl from going out with you? maybe, she will even like them. personally, I like guys that are a little bit different from the others. belive me, she will notice the marks but I really do not think that they would be a reason not to go out with you. And if they are, then she is simply stupid.
My two cents....
I think you're just nervous about being rejected. I know in highschool looks are one of the most important things, but lets face it...they don't have to be. If this girl is willing to get to know you then I'm sure some scars won't make a difference. Just try to be confident. This IS a big turn on to girls. It seems to me that you're trying to make up an excuse on why she wouldn't say yes, but who knows maybe she will say yes. It's worth a shot isn't it? Plus, have you ever though about getting something to help with the scars? I don't know, maybe like a acne scarring agent or something. Just an idea. Maybe if they faded a little more then you would gain that extra confidence you would need to ask her out!
[This message has been edited by tntmod5 (edited 06-11-2003).]
To Andrew(or anyone elce wit same prob)I cant actually believe u r puttin urself dwon like this! You should LOVE the way you look!as a matter of fact so should she, or whoever ur goin out wit/after. If a girl only judges u by ur spotts then she is SOOOO shallow!! The perfect girl would look beyond your appearance to ur personality. And anyway she would be goin out wit u, not ur spotts. get over it coz they will go!