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Old 05-29-2003, 03:12 PM   #1
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I know that a lot of people will say that looks don't matter. However, when you're in high school, they definetly do. I have alot, I mean a lot (over 40), of little tiny red marks all over my face left over from acne. I just want to know if girls find these red marks a turnoff. I like this girl, and my belief is that if i didn't have these marks, she would go out with me. But I don't want her to feel bad if she turns me down because of these stupid red marks. From far away, it's fine, but up close, it actually is quite disgusting. So, from a female's point of view, are they are turnoff?

P.S.- The red marks look like very shallow pits.

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Old 05-29-2003, 06:08 PM   #2
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So you're saying that she won't date you because you don't look perfect.

.. Remind me why you WANT to spend time with this person? Let me guess; she's kind and nice and funny and compassionate! OKAY, I guess zero out of four isn't bad.

She isn't worth dating. Don't worry about her.

 
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Old 05-29-2003, 06:54 PM   #3
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No, no. I don't know her at all, nor have I actually asked her out. I'm just making an ASSUMPTION that these red marks keep me from getting a girlfriend in GENERAL. My reasoning: Past experiences; Few months back, I asked a girl out when it was kinda dark (at a party), so my face looked fine and she said yes. She definetly seemed interested to date me. I met her again a week later during the day and she said she had a boyfriend.
I know not all people are superficial, but we're high school students... so, unfortunetly, A LOT of people still are.

 
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Maybe you should give it a shot and ask her out.

 
Old 05-29-2003, 09:16 PM   #5
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LOL @ wrin I definetly agree. You don't want her to feel bad about not liking you for the red marks? Who cares?! She's shallow if she's care!

btw, I was like OBSESSED w/this kid who had acne...he was cute and sweet and smart. Don't worry about this minor prob!

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Old 05-30-2003, 03:54 AM   #6
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If you're saying you dont want to ask her cos you think she would be in an awkward position then that is her problem not yours. She shouldnt be so god damned shallow. And besides if she won't go out with you cos of your Acne then she isn't really going to be a very nice girl, and no doubt one of those really irratating prissy pissy girls who let little things matter. You know Megab1tches!

Good luck mate and all the best to you.


 
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Maybe try to make friends with her first, if you can. When people first meet, there is little to go on to judge the other person, other than how they look. If you have gotten to know each other a little and she has had a chance to get to know the real you, she will be more likley to overlook your red dots.

 
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will the red marks ever go away?

 
Old 05-31-2003, 11:58 AM   #9
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Yah they'll go away but it takes a fair chunk of time.

Give it a shot and ask her out and if she doesn't want to date you because of red marks on your face then nothing lost.

 
Old 06-01-2003, 09:03 PM   #10
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If she doesn't date you because of your scarring, she's not worth it anyway. I don't find it a turn off, nobody's perfect. Go for it and ask her out.

 
Old 06-03-2003, 02:23 PM   #11
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i don't think these girls are worth it! i am a girl so i know how we can be big <deleted>! if they can't see past what you think are your flaws, which personally i think are absolutely nothing, then what is so great about them! i mean we all have them but we shouldn't let them take over how we feel, which includes are level of self-confidence. i mean i use to feel that way to , infact i used to pretend i was sick so i wouldn't have to got to peoples parties! i know how you feel. but just think of all the great things about you on the outside and the inside! hope i could help!till next time!
- schoolgirl

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Old 06-03-2003, 03:32 PM   #12
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personally i have dated a couple of guys with acne, and personally it doesnt bother me! As long as they have a great personality, you can be really hot with or without all those red marks! Don't let it be discouraging, everybody gets them at one point or another, and i really dont think ppl care.

 
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This kind of stuff does not bother me at all, i mean it's no big deal. Dont you worry that stuff will go away, just go ask some other girl out, one thats not a <deleted>.

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Old 06-04-2003, 10:09 PM   #14
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I think that if all girls didn't like that, a lot of us would be single, no? You should just do what you can to help them go away, but don't stress about it, nature made you who you are

 
Old 06-05-2003, 11:02 AM   #15
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Oh yeah..and PLENTY of high school students have acne. I personally never fuss when I get breakouts because it's normal.

 
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