It appears you have not yet Signed Up with our community. To Sign Up for free, please click here....



Teen Health Message Board
Post New Thread   Closed Thread
LinkBack Thread Tools
Old 07-13-2003, 06:35 PM   #1
Senior Member
 
Join Date: Apr 2003
Posts: 226
FaithfulyWaiting HB User
Unhappy no Friends

Ok...just in the past couple of weeks, my only really close girlfriend and I decided that our friendship had really fizzled. we are happier apart. So, now that that relationship is over, I have looked around and realized..that I don't have any other friends. She was my only one. Growing up she was my only one. her family and siblings have other friends our age, that we would hang out with also. But, because of this severed friendship, and because I never really got close with any of them other people (I actually don't want to) I don't have any friends outside my family. My best friend is my boyfriend, he is sooo great. I love him so much, but he lives quite a ways from me (a long distance relationship) but I still have to have girlfriends to hang out with and to talk about our b/f's and other things with right? how do I go about befriending people? Where do I meet friends? I am such a social mess. Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks
__________________
~*Nick's Wife*~
Mommy to Amber Josephine -July 10,2005-

 
Old 07-13-2003, 06:40 PM   #2
Inactive
 
Join Date: Jun 2002
Location: PA,USA
Posts: 694
DanaJ HB User
Post

Well you don't have to have female friends. It's always nice to have people to fall back on and all, but if you're happier being alone, then so be it.

You ask how to befriend people. I don't know how old you are, so I don't know whether or not you are in school and/or hold a job etc. Do you go anywhere where you could strike up a conversation with others?
You didn't really supply any info in that area, so it's hard to give you a direction to go in.

 
Sponsors Lightbulb
   
Old 07-13-2003, 07:41 PM   #3
Veteran
(female)
 
Join Date: Jul 2003
Location: San Pedro, CA.
Posts: 459
upshutter17 HB User
Post

Hi all. I recently graduated from High School, and I officially didn't have any friends. It's so depressing to know you don't have any friends, but that doesn't mean life is over. Seriously, I met people through sites like this, and I made friends there. Even though they're from a different City/State/Country we have become friends. Meeting these people was a great thing, we have this whole panic disorder thing in common. Except some sites don't let you post your personal info. Good luck in what you do. You're not alone, plenty of people feel the way you do.
Upshutter

 
Old 07-14-2003, 03:49 PM   #4
Senior Member
 
Join Date: Apr 2003
Posts: 226
FaithfulyWaiting HB User
Post

Ok, Yeah, I am in my Senior year of High School,
and I am also holding a 40 hour a week job.
I don't really get out anywhere. I am working on getting my driver's license, and yeah, I'd prefer to have female friends, because I have a boyfriend, and I'm not comfortable having guy friends. I've been that road, most of the friends I've ever had, have been guys and like...4 of them..in the past 2 years have said they liked me, and when I just wanted to be friends, it ruined our friendship...
anyways...i just would like to have some close girlfriends, like a normal teenager? and I've had friendships online, but its not the same as in Real life...I guess this is a weird topic, and not many people will have any advice, but thanks anyways.
__________________
~*Nick's Wife*~
Mommy to Amber Josephine -July 10,2005-

 
Old 07-14-2003, 05:23 PM   #5
Inactive
 
Join Date: Jun 2002
Location: PA,USA
Posts: 694
DanaJ HB User
Post

Quote:
Originally posted by FaithfulyWaiting:
Ok, Yeah, I am in my Senior year of High School,
and I am also holding a 40 hour a week job.
I don't really get out anywhere. I am working on getting my driver's license, and yeah, I'd prefer to have female friends, because I have a boyfriend, and I'm not comfortable having guy friends. I've been that road, most of the friends I've ever had, have been guys and like...4 of them..in the past 2 years have said they liked me, and when I just wanted to be friends, it ruined our friendship...
anyways...i just would like to have some close girlfriends, like a normal teenager? and I've had friendships online, but its not the same as in Real life...I guess this is a weird topic, and not many people will have any advice, but thanks anyways.
It sounds like you are quite the go getter.
Are there any females your age at your place of employment? I know the people I work with have become my closest friends!
Other than that, it sounds like you don't have too much time! Maybe once you're out of HS you'll have better luck, especially if you will be going off to college or be able to work full time(well you say you are now, so I don't know hwo much of a help it would be).
I knwo what you mean about not really wanting to have male friendships. Once you're involved with someone, it can become complicated, and as you said ruin friendships. Been there done that. So I can totally understand where you're coming from.
Either way, good luck.

 
Old 07-26-2003, 03:47 AM   #6
Newbie
 
Join Date: Jul 2003
Location: ca,usa
Posts: 3
jenners1086 HB User
Unhappy

I know exactly how you feel, I recently had a best friend who chose to kind of ditch me for others since i have a b/f and um "they were cooler" we had been friends like forever. But now I find myself in my senior year with absolutely no girl friends to chill with, no one to shop with, or have sleepovers with, or disscuss guys with.. So now I pretty much chill with my boy friend's friends and it's kinda interesting but too much testosterone(or however you spell that) but ya, I gotta ask you ( and i know you have a job) but do you play any sports? cause i found that last year when i was involved in this swim club i had a lot of people who just were dying to be my friend. even though thats done now for me and im sorta feeling depressed, it was a good easy way to make friends, working out at the ymca used to be a good way too. have you tried that? or you could possibly ask your b/f's buddies if they have any g/f's or anything.That may help..

 
Old 07-26-2003, 08:10 PM   #7
Junior Member
 
Join Date: Jul 2003
Location: Potomac, MD, U.S.A.
Posts: 33
hoops11789 HB User
Smile

i used to not have a lot of friends. but then i read a book called, "How to Win Friends and Influence People" by Dale Carnigy. It was either that book or my attitude that got me a ton of more quality friends. i made them feel like an important person when i talked to them. try it and don't get down on urself!! xoxoxo MWAH!!

 
Old 07-26-2003, 09:15 PM   #8
Senior Member
(female)
 
Join Date: Feb 2002
Location: Chicago, IL USA
Posts: 133
Carnival_Angel HB User
Unhappy

I feel where you are comming from. After I got out of high school I lsot touch with my girl friends. I have my boyfriend whos great, hes my best friend. I then have an ex boyfriend who lives far but hes also been a great friend. Then my other two closest friends made a few mistakes and are now in jail.
Its awesome having my boyfriend as my best friend and such but its lonely without my "boys" who are now not here. I had a previous job where I made some friends, not to many girls. For some reason after I got out of high school I have found it hard to become friends with girls but I really miss it. At my current job there really is not anyone I click with or would enjoy hanging out with. I miss the Girl relationships and wish I knew how to get some of those back.

------------------
* ~ JeN JeN ~ *

 
Old 07-27-2003, 06:03 PM   #9
Senior Veteran
(female)
 
Join Date: Sep 2002
Location: New Zealand
Posts: 1,065
Dramaqueen HB User
Post

To meet new friends, go hang out at different places. Join a new class, or do something you love and you will attract like minded people.

 
Old 07-28-2003, 12:38 AM   #10
Junior Member
 
Join Date: Jul 2003
Location: united states
Posts: 18
nik86 HB User
Post

Hey if your atleast 16, get a job....you can meet people and make money at the smae time. Like killing 2 birds with one stone!


--Nikki
__________________
*N.K.*

 
Closed Thread

Similar Threads
Thread Thread Starter Board Replies Last Post
I can't seem to make friends no matter how hard I try. Giant_Squid Relationship Health 3 11-25-2009 07:35 PM
guys more into their friends than girlfriend reba423 Relationship Health 10 09-10-2009 02:28 PM
I give up making friends!!! Need to vent! desertdweller Relationship Health 15 08-08-2006 06:54 PM
Say No 2 Women and Guy Friends! briancybo Relationship Health 17 12-31-2005 10:27 AM
Making friends? stacykgb20 Relationship Health 6 10-23-2005 11:36 PM




Thread Tools

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is Off
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are Off
Pingbacks are Off
Refbacks are Off




Join Our Newsletter

Stay healthy through tips curated by our health experts.

Whoops,

There was a problem adding your email Try again

Thank You

Your email has been added








TOP THANKED CONTRIBUTORS



Seraph (7), rosequartz (6), writeleft (6), lenvegas (4), Kszan (3), linguist1 (2), Diverdan8 (2), ERpiguy (2), solofelix (2), frisbeefreak (2)

Site Wide Totals

teteri66 (1164), MSJayhawk (999), Apollo123 (898), Titchou (833), janewhite1 (823), Gabriel (758), ladybud (747), sammy64 (667), midwest1 (665), BlueSkies14 (610)



All times are GMT -7. The time now is 02:56 AM.



Site owned and operated by HealthBoards.comô
Terms of Use © 1998-2014 HealthBoards.comô All rights reserved.
Do not copy or redistribute in any form!