I want to know if it really is looks that attract a guy to a girl, i know that everyone says looksaren't evrything, but i can't help feeling that without looks, waht else can be attractive enough to get a datae invite, or for a guy to want to get to know you better. Everyone says that it is personality and what's on the inside that matters, but i want to know the truth. When you respond to this, just tell the truth and don't just write waht you think it should be, write what you know it is...Thanks
Well, when you are young, especially in high school, looks are generally pretty important. Call me superficial, but I would not want to marry or go out with a real ugly person. If she is decent looking, and has a great personality, then yes, i would go for her. But give me a gorgeous chick with a decent personality, and an ugly, fat woman with a great personality, Ill take the first one
Looks are definitely a plus, and that is what attracts me to a girl. I know it's not entirely the same for every guy. Good looks + Good personality, I will fall in love with, lol.
Looks are definetly a factor, especially if you are in the younger years. But, it's more of "how high are your standards" thing. But anyways, it's a person's looks that make a guy/girl approach each other to start a conversation if they don't know each at all.
okay...
this might sound COMPLETLY shallow, but the way I see it is--
if your with a group for the first time...say kids from all different middle schools forming one highschool or something....
people first talk to people based on how they look, or how the person thinks they look...and after the conversation, they decide how their personality is...
i kinda doubt that people go up and talk to really gross looking people just because they think they might have a good personality..
so in a way, i kinda think that looks matter a lot--- dont get me wrong....i think personality matters a whole lot too but first you see the outside of someone, then the inside...does anyone see what i mean?
abbygirl, I know exactly what you're talking about. It's also the same way I feel. For ex. - I will be INITIALLY attracted to a person by their looks, but truly love them because of their personality.
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Originally posted by Andrew29: I will be INITIALLY attracted to a person by their looks, but truly love with them because of their personality.
We'll said Andrew, I couldn't agree with you more, how many times have I been attracted to someone Physically, but once I got to know them, didn't want to go any further
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It's absurd to call someone shallow because he/she makes initial judgements about a person based on appearance, we're naturally designed to do just that. Now dating someone with no personality whatsoever just for their looks would be shallow. Remember that looks may get you initial attraction, but only in highschool will they get you a girlfriend.
Well looks may not be everything , but look at it this way , if you had two gurls ones really pretty , and the other isn't as pretty , but the really pretty one may have a worse personaility , you know the better looking one will get asked out , but every now in then some one comes along who could care less about looks , but thats the way it is , and theres not much really to do about it.
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Looks really do matter, but everyone has their own perspective on a nice looking person. To one guy, a girl may look ugly to him, and to a different guy, she may look beautiful. It depends what a person thinx beauty is or looks like.
it mostly depends on the person. now i'll admit that when a very good looking girl passes by me she catches my attention...true. however, would i ever want to be with her? probably not. when i'm looking for a girl to actually date i look mostly for personallity. i want them to be pretty too. but i am not looking for a totally sexy fox. then again...that's just me. some other guys are different.
Liek advice given, yes looks most likely do matter when you are younger.
But get this, if the guy/girl is really hot and u are goin out with them or sumthin, jus based on their looks, and they turn out to be complete ***holes or boring as hell, then whuts the point?
To me.. Looks sorta matter, yes, but whut theyre like is better, cuz if theyre borin, whuts the point :P
k well first of all only shallow people will think looks are everything, i mean they are important but they aren't EVERYTHING. but they do help, i mean when you are sitting there and looking at ur bf/gf, it helps to be looking at someone decent looking, but if your enicially attracted to the person cause of their personality than go for it, alot of this has to do with peer pressure, i mean alot of guys and gurls want their friends to date someone hot/goodlooking, but if you are attracted to them for their personality dont let your friends have anything to do with your decision(even if they are a big role in ur life)
Looks do matter, but to an extent. Having designer clothes is nothing. As long as its clean, fits, and looks somewhat nice, its fine. Girls are just as attractive in sweats to me, as long as they are confident with what they are wearing, and concerned with their appearance, like checking their hair and makeup every 10 minutes. To me, the most attractive quality in a girl is a nice smile, somebody that is smiling and laughing and having a good time. By far. Hope that helps.
Well most girls I have interviewed for "zines" will say..
At first I asked about the teeth, missing, gapped and color...
Most girls agreed that, you don't have to have a perfect smile.
- All said they wouldn't date a guy with missing
teeth,
- All girls said they wanted white teeth to show that
they actually take care of there teeth.
- Gapped teeth are okay to have.
Then I went to ask about the face and if acne mattered. This was mostly the same...
- Not major acne, just doesn't have to be perfect.
They do realize that you will most likely get rid
of the acne...
Next was the hair, because some can be touchy with the hair...
- hair is hair and it can be fixed..
Finally I asked about the body
They all came to the same conclusion.
-Not very skinny, then again not fat...
At the end they most said that after they get to know you it really doesn't matter what you look like.
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yes, these were cute to hott looking girls I asked... Anyway, I hope I helped somewhat.. l
is appearance everything? 
