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Old 08-22-2003, 02:21 AM   #1
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Question Would it be okay with guys if..

Well I am a christian girl and I like boys and want a boyfriend, but I want to know if guys will still be interested in me if I abstain and decide to save myself for when I am married?? I want a boyfriend, but I don't want to end up doing something that I think is a very special gift from God (virginity). can you help me??

 
Old 08-22-2003, 06:47 AM   #2
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luk around ur church n find a guy that feels the same then u 2 can go to church 2gether n talk about saving urselves till the cows *** home

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Old 08-22-2003, 12:51 PM   #3
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if u have any private (christian) schools near u, check the guys out there. i go to a small private school and all of the guys there are great and would never make me compromise my morals. good luk

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Old 08-22-2003, 08:18 PM   #4
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hey i can't speak for all guys, but i know that for me, a girl who is saving herself for marriage is actually more attractive, because i can respect her. honestly, you will probably miss out on alot of boyfriends, but please... don't compromise your morals for any guy. It isn't worth it, & you will be very very unhappy afterwards.

But trust me, if a guy thinks less of you for saving yourself, then he's a ******* who isn't worth telling the time of day, seriously. Anyway, I hope you find a nice guy!

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---hmm, it bleeped my word... sorry about the language

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Old 08-22-2003, 10:25 PM   #5
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It's funny because I'm reading a lot of posts about guys asking for girlfriends AND girls asking for boyfriends.

Why can't these two parties meet? Both are desperate enough. Huh. Just my observation.

Freakonaleash, do you think guys date gals for sex? You're mistaken. Some are really sweet and compassionate.

But of course we're living in an era, specifically the Werstern culture, where the media portrays that having sex before marriage is an A-okay kind of thing. It poisons the youth into thinking that they should have sex too just because they see them in movies several times and hear so many things about it.

My advice is to look for someone in your church. (But I suppose not plenty of guys go to church. Shame.) So why not date anyone? Don't be picky. Just quit when you find out that he just wants to have sex and can't wait. He's not worth it. And, don't even worry about sex, worry about how you get a guy.

Good luck.


 
Old 08-22-2003, 11:13 PM   #6
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[B]You definatly can,
Sorry I didn't get that. You definitely can what?

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but just because you dont want to lose your virginity, make that the limit..but leave all others optional 1/2/3'rd bases
Still, I don't get that. Please elaborate.

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i dont think a relationship can be held healthy without any forms of sexual contact, because..especially at our age, thats what it is.
How do you know?

Sexual contact? What do you mean by that? Kissing? Cuddling? Holdind hands? Walking while you're in his arms? Those are sexual contact and can sometimes be pleassurable enough for both sexes.



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Old 08-22-2003, 11:18 PM   #7
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Yes, she can definatly have a relationship without having sex


If I understand correctly, first, second, and third bases, are not considered actual SEX, butless extreme forms of it, and this can be achieved without losing actual virginity


Cuddling and holding, will be enough for a week tops, after that the guy will make moves, and she will live a very depressed life dumping guy after guy because he wants to go farther than holding hands. Im talking about the step after foreplay. Do I have to spell it out for you..?

 
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Hahaha. Sorry I was slow (heck it's almost 2:30 AM), now I get where you're coming from. I agree with you, male that I am, we all want sex. But that also depends on your age, morality, religous beliefs, ethnic background, etc.

You think that all men are sexual predators? That's very pessimistic view of human males.

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Cuddling and holding, will be enough for a week tops, after that the guy will make moves
True, as I did, but that doesn't mean the guy won't stop. Nor it would mean the relationship is over. If your relationship is based upon other things other than sex, of course, the guy will wait. It happens.

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she will live a very depressed life dumping guy after guy
How do you know? That's why I was suggesting to her to get a guy who has strong religious beliefs like hers. So they wouldn't worry about it. Stop thinking that all men only want women for sex/ (although that's one BIG reason, but not the only one)

Difference of opinion, it's giving freaknoleash more things to think about. That's goood. Hahaha.



 
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from experiance, once i 'stop' because i dont force anything, im not that type of man, then i feel REALLY awkward, because its like i tried, arent going to get any, then thoughts start to race, am i ever going to? and while this is happening your not talking, and it gets so awkward, you feel like you should just leave, nd that spoils the night doesn't it?

 
Old 08-22-2003, 11:46 PM   #10
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Old 08-22-2003, 11:56 PM   #11
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Guess I dont

 
Old 08-23-2003, 01:00 AM   #12
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Although I'm sure they are very hard to find, there ARE guys out there who will not only respect your decision (and what a great decision it is) but will also have the same morals and choose to wait also! I happen to know of one, actually. He is 26, and he is waiting! He is a Christian and understands how special this is. I'm glad you do, too, and I hope that you will never compromise your beliefs just to please a guy. I think dating a Christian guy would most definitely be the best route because, obviously, the purpose of dating is to find the person you are going to spend the rest of your life with, so you NEED for that person to have the same beliefs and values as you! If you start dating a guy who is not a Christian, it is true that he CAN one day become one. The best thing to do in that situation, or with ANYone you know who is not a Christian, is to pray! I hope I helped.
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Old 08-23-2003, 07:05 AM   #13
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A long time ago when I was like 15 I met a girl and started going out with her.
I'm actually very Religious and I wanted to wait till marriage.
She said she wanted to wait too, what her reasons were I'm not sure.
Well didn't last that long, we loved eachother so we took the step.
And it wasn't an issue of self control for me, I know alot of guys don't have it. I've actually had girls naked in my bed that I turned down. But this girl I loved.
The thing is though, we are married now. She is still the only women I've ever been with.

You have to think too why save yourself till marriage?
With the way things are today with the divorce rate so high marriage in our society doesn't mean much anymore. Don't get me wrong I love being married, I love my wife, and I hope to be married to her till I die. Butreally think about what marriage is in our society. Look at how many times people get married and divorced its horrible.

I say find a guy you love. And if your very Religious you'll probably only wanna be married once too. But you can't predict the future, you never know what will happen 10 years down the road. People change over time, if you are the same type of people when you get married you might be different in 10 or 15 years. you never know. So what I'm saying is it might not really matter if you wait till you get married.
But I would say wait as long as you can and if a guy doesn't like that then you know thats all he wants.

 
Old 08-23-2003, 09:34 AM   #14
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Friday Night, when you get the chance, ******** the song - "Kannibalistic - God is dead" or if you cannot find it, you may on horrorcore.com, he's on a sampler. As a religous man, you'll find it very interesting...or offending

 
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