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Old 08-19-2003, 11:21 PM   #1
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Question How to avoid the "friend zone"

ahh hello i'm new here, but i have a question i've been wondering about, so i thought i'd throw it out here.

umm i'm 19 & have always had a problem with getting stuck in the "friend zone" with girls. whenever i try to get to know a girl that i'm kind of interested in, i always end up becoming too good of friends with her to ask her out.

i guess what i'm getting at is how do i avoid this? how can i be a friend to a girl, but still keep open the option to date her? i'm not saying that being just friends with a girl is bad... i have 1 friend who's a girl, & i really enjoy my relationship with her, & i don't really ever want it to become anything more. but there are some girls who i've become friends with who i'd like to be able to ask them out & become more than just friends with, but i can't because i don't know how to avoid being stuck as "just a friend."

so if i guess someone could give me some advice that'd be great

-Patrick

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Old 08-20-2003, 06:57 AM   #2
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Be touchy feely and compliment her. Maybe, put your arm around her when your walking around? Or hug only her when you see her and a group of friends you're hanging out with(It will make her wonder why she's special) You can also tell her she looks pretty. Even small winks or smiles are a great way of letting a girl know you're interested.

 
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Old 08-20-2003, 07:38 AM   #3
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yeah start the flirting right away! Don't wait till you get to know them better or anything. Be a dirty flirt it's the only way for guys to avoid the friend zone. and if they dont respond to the flirting then they arent interested

 
Old 08-20-2003, 12:47 PM   #4
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good points, thanks... but i'm not really a "dirty flirt" type of guy, it's not really my style... i just want to know how to get a girl on a date without having to spell it out to her... "this will be a real date, we're not going as just friends, ok?"

get what i mean?

-Patrick

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Old 08-21-2003, 08:49 PM   #5
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lol, yes yes I know what you mean. Look, you may think it sounds stupid but a girl wont. All you have to do is say, "Hey, I was wondering if maybe you'd like to go out wiht me sometime, more than a friend." Or heck use the word date. If someone were to say, "Would you like to go on a date wiht me." I wouldn't exactly assume it to be a friend basis.

 
Old 08-22-2003, 02:34 AM   #6
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what you should do is just make her feel special, give her a rose on her birthdya or when she accoplishes something like being in a play or wateva.. and just make sure u always smile at her and are a gentleman, she probably already likes u because girls often like their guy friend. so be honest with her and hold her hand, and maybe even give her a small peck on the lips and she'll get the picture. Then just ask her out on a "date" and make sure u emphasize the word DATE. cuz girls often doubt what the guy means if she likes him.. ok I hope this helped!

 
Old 08-22-2003, 07:49 PM   #7
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Eheh... i tried the "dirty flirt" thing today... it got me a number i mean, getting just a number is nothing new, but i've never gotten one saying stuff like that Anyway this is usually where it goes wrong... on the first date. i'll try yall's advice & see if i can make this one last longer than a couple weeks thanks

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Old 08-23-2003, 07:32 AM   #8
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This has nothing to do with your topic Camaro Guy

But do you actually have a Camaro?

I got one it was my first car and I'm never getting rid of it. My wife hates it, but she understands its my first car and I'm attached.
Its an 87 the body is starting to get a little scruffy but the engine and everything else are good and strong over 650 horses at the tires right now, hoping to be over 1000 one day. I'm waiting to do much more till my boys are old enough to help some which won't be for like 5 years. So it sits in storage. I only drive it 1 or 2 times a year to race

 
Old 08-23-2003, 09:40 AM   #9
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Yep. I have a 1985 Camaro IROC-Z with a 305, 700r4 automatic transmission, 3.23 rear gears, 16" IROC wheels, t-tops... & i love it. Wouldn't trade it for the world. It's in great great great condition, however it's just a 305 & really not fast enough for my tastes. But it's my daily driver, plus i'm in college (A.K.A. broke) so it's not going to get any faster anytime soon. After i get out of college & get settled somewhere, i'm going to stick it in the garage & buy me a daily driver. I want to stick a new engine in it so i can hit around 11s at the track. Also i want to turn it into a standard. But i wanna keep it as close to street legal as possible. Anyway if you want to see it...
[url="http://www.cardomain.com/id/prlirocz85"]http://www.cardomain.com/id/prlirocz85[/url]

Check it out, i think you'll like it.

-Patrick
--Your car sounds nice... do you have it on a webpage anywhere? i'd love to see some engine shots.
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Old 08-24-2003, 08:20 PM   #10
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lol well my date went pretty well. I'm close to horrible at reading girls, so i'm really not sure what she's thinking. However, i did try to touch her more & be more gentlemen-like. So it went slightly better than average. Your advice helped. Thanks.

-Patrick

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Old 08-25-2003, 01:47 PM   #11
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Glad to hear it.

 
Old 08-26-2003, 06:23 PM   #12
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homie-
watch the movie "swingers" and i think you may get all the advice you need. just dont talk about ice cream and puppy dogs. be confident, make her laugh, dont open up your heart and cry to her and everything, that will surely put you in the friend category. girls want to feel protected by their boyfriends so if you are a (no offense) "wuss" shes not gonna want to go out w/ you. and dont be afraid to be a little more aggressive than usual.
Peace.

 
Old 08-26-2003, 07:06 PM   #13
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Oh heh that's actually good advice... thanks

-Patrick

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Old 08-27-2003, 12:26 PM   #14
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ooo ice cream, now that's something I like to talk about;-)

 
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