When my son had his first girlfriend he asked me the same question. I told him to ask her how many brothers and sisters she had, if she had any pets, what kind of movies/music she liked, does she have any hobbies. My son said, 'but mom, that sounds like friends talking!' I said, "Exactly! what do you think you have to say to her?!..."when are we getting married?"
Anyway, being casual and asking her about herself is a great way to start talking.
(p.s. I'm not a teen, but I play one on tv. LOL Just here to try and have a peek into my 14 year olds possible concerns in life. You see that I add to conversations so I am not a lurker)
[This message has been edited by sawbuck44 (edited 08-29-2003).]
If you open the door even a little bit - the devil will fling it open. Keep it closed with prayer.
hehehe... if you had asked what girls usually talk about with other girls... I would say "boys"... but since you want to know what to talk to her about... first of all.. forget that she's a girl...
how would you start a conversation with say... a teacher? well.. with a teacher.. you have a built in topic.. your school work. for talking to someone else you have to find a topic.. maybe a common ground.. do you have any classes with her?
"hi... you're in my (blank) class right? Mr. Teachersomebody is really weird sometimes isn't he?"
ooor... if you can't immediately think of common ground.. a (non pickup line) compliment always helps..
"Hi.. your name is stacey rght? I'm josh.. are you wearing some kind of perfume? because you passed by me in the hall just now and it smelled really nice..."
just find a topic to start something up with and coast from there.. try to pretend she's someone you know while you're talking to her and you won't be as nervous
Just go up to her and be like "hey im (ur name), whats up?" if u have any classes with any classes with her that ur not so great in maybe that can start a conversation just go up to her and be like "hey do u understand the homework tonite...im ont so sure i get it"just act like she is ur friend, but dont talk about other girls around her, it wont make her feel special. Just be urself ( i kno it sounds corny, but it works)
ok yea, what everyone else said about starting a convo is what i would say, but if you want to keep it going, find out what shes good at. or find out if you guys play any sports or like the same kinda of movies etc. its really nice when you can talk to a person that understands what youre talking about. and i agree w/beachbella: just be yourself- dont be fake
Why is it that males feel the need to change topics when talking to girls. Maybe tone down on sports/videogames and keep out like lockerroom talk other than that its open forum. And if the girl doesn't like what you have to say find one who does I don't know how old you are but it is probably too soon to be looking for a lifelong mate, instead just look for one with common interests