When my son had his first girlfriend he asked me the same question. I told him to ask her how many brothers and sisters she had, if she had any pets, what kind of movies/music she liked, does she have any hobbies. My son said, 'but mom, that sounds like friends talking!' I said, "Exactly! what do you think you have to say to her?!..."when are we getting married?"
Anyway, being casual and asking her about herself is a great way to start talking.
(p.s. I'm not a teen, but I play one on tv. LOL Just here to try and have a peek into my 14 year olds possible concerns in life. You see that I add to conversations so I am not a lurker)
[This message has been edited by sawbuck44 (edited 08-29-2003).]
If you open the door even a little bit - the devil will fling it open. Keep it closed with prayer.