Amphy, You're probably 14 or 15 right? And you act as if you care what the popular girls do. Well I'm just gonna tell you something that you will evuntually learn one day. It doesnt matter. Be how you want to be. If you want to be prude, then be prude, if you dont, then dont. If you want to like someone that isnt popular, then by all means, go after him. Dont worry about what the popular kids think. Its not like they are someone you have to answer too. And in 4 years, they wont matter AT ALL to you anymore, so dont let them matter now!
Be yourself and act how you want to act.
it may seem that popularity is one of the most important things in high school, but believe me, after you graduate, no one cares if you are popular. in my experience...i wasn't one of the totally popular girls, but i was basically friendly to everyone and everyone was friendly to me. i had a certain close group of girlfriends, but they were not the popular girls. after i gradded last june...all my friends and i went off to university to start our new lives, make new friends etc. about 90% of the girls who were really popular did not. why? because they didn't want to leave their friends behind in case they weren't popular at university. and at university, no one cares if you were popular in high school. they are also the girls that are ungrading at local high schools so they can be in the high school environment again. they have no plans for the future....well, none that don't involve the rest of the clique. get what i'm saying? so stop worrying about popularity because in a few years, it will not matter at all!
Word of Advice: Being popular has nothign at all to do with your future, so why care?
I was popular for the last 2 years of my high school years, and i cant say it was any better than the first 2 years (00 grad). Although i became popular i never looked down on my friends from the "other" group, i stayed friends with both. The funny thing that i noticed now is that all the popular girls/guys have dropped out of college, alot because they are not well known, and people dont run to your every needs. I am not saying that if your popular your going to be a dropout but what im saying is staying true to who you really are will get you further in life than being who others want you to be. Other people make you popular, and what happens in 4 years when people are not going to listen to what you have to say?
ok im 15 1/2 and a freshmen in high. I gues u could say i have a high maturity level for my age. I was always one of the popular guys...and only dated the popular girls. Begining of this year i dated a REALLY hot junior girl and then we broke up. But now, im dating this other junior...shes very decent but has never been as "hot" or "popular" as the popular girls.
but u know what..wev been dating for 6 months and i ****in love her more than any1 else b 4. Best of all she has a personality better than anyone i have ever seen before...and that alone has showed me how hot she is and how much i value her. I even lost my virginity with this girl...so as u get older in the next 2 years...your gona realise that you like who you like regardless of their popularity. Matter of fact, there really is no popularity later on...you got your friends...girlfriend...and if someone has 2 say sumthin about it..**** em
Originally posted by brands11: The funny thing that i noticed now is that all the popular girls/guys have dropped out of college, alot because they are not well known, and people dont run to your every needs.
That is funny! Only b/c I was popular in H.S. …with 5 brothers & sisters everyone tends to know who you are! I was homecoming queen, lettered every sport, joined almost every club, was on the honor roll every time blah! blah! blah! http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/gabby.gif Anyways, I went to college for 2 years and then "dropped out" - not b/c people weren't there to run to my every need or because I couldn't handle it but b/c I found a job that I love. (By the way, I graduated in 92 so I'm not exactly ancient - I can still relate)
I can't see why'd there'd be a difference in the college drop out rate between "popular and unpopular high school" students. That doesn't make sense. My husband has a close knit group of friends from high school who were all in the "unpopular" group (he went to a different school). He didn't go to college not b/c he "couldn't leave his friends" but b/c he got a job offer making $25/hr. (at 18 who wouldn't take it) plus he had to move away from group of friends for a few years (He went south and we live in OH).
High school friends are something to cherish whether it be popular or unpopular. I personally think that every single person is popular in one way or another. Everyone has their own "cliques" and so somebody has to be the "popular" one even if it is in what some would call an "unpopular" group.
As to would a popular girl date an unpopular guy? Well, I may not have dated him in high school - I didn't know him then anyways plus he says he wouldn't never dated me either - but I married him, didn't I?! (BTW, I wouldn't have dated him b/c he is 3 yrs younger than me - not b/c he was unpopular)
If a popular girl wouldn't date you b/c she thought you were to unpopular for her then she's not worth dating…yet - there's still time for her to grow up.
Sorry so lengthy!
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Who cares about being popular, I am 16 and in the 11th grade whenI was in 9th grade-10th I was always so worried about being part of the "in crowd". Now I COULD CARE LESS I just be myself and peple really respect you for that as a matter of fact Im very well know I talk to the "popular" kids but I dont really hang around them. I tend to find, kids who arent caught up in the whole popular stuff are more real and fun to be around its like they dont care what ppl think. Im just a carefree person by the way some popular girls are ugly physically and personality wise compared to the quiet ones! (thinks about this loud obnoxious girl in my 5th period LOL) (what amess)
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I don't think it matters if your popular or not, it matters who the person is. As you get older popularity doesnt matter as much..well even for our school. I am a freshman in HighSchool. We all came to a school with 600 students per grade and we only knew people from our school which is only like 150 people so all the "clicks" in middle school just went away now everyone is just friends.. you make new friends and the clicks start over again but it isnt like before..its weird but yeah anyways i dont think it matters who u go out with, normally popular guys go out with popular girls but sometimes thats different
I also think that one of the reasons why popular guys date popular girls is because thats who they hang out with. Thats who they are around. So thats who they know. I've seen this happen alot..a guy or girl will get out of her click and meet another person and they will go out. Only because she had just met him, not because he wasnt popular.
ok im a 15 year old girl and i used to be in a school with the popular ppl and the non popular ppl i was friends with some of both now im at a school where everyone is equal and its great but one thing ppl are missing now is bein "popular" is being liked by lots of ppl not just ones with parasuco jeans or DKNY shoes remember that!
OK i am 21 so High school was not that long ago for me. I wouldn't have concidered myself "unpopular", but i didn't follow the popular crowd. I was friends with Everyone. I remember the POPULAR girls!!! OMG they thought they were so cool and i was a athlete and a tomboy so i wasn't cool to them!! Its so funny cause when i started college i matured in my looks and i came out of my shell. I am 21, I have a REAL career, college education, a home, a life..... etc. Then sometimes i go back to my home town to visit my family and I stop to get gas or get a mocha and i see These POPULAR girls and they are fat, popped out 3 kids already with different guys and workin at the local gas station!!! I just smile and say wow i haven't seen you in a long time!!! Hows life!! and i love to brag about my accomplishments!!
Being popular might seem like a big deal in high school, but once you are out none of those people matter. Be yourself!
It would seem to me if you brag about your accomplishments your not any better than those "popular" girls. If they are happy with their lives the way they are then whats wrong with that? It wouldn't be the life that I choose for myself but maybe that's all they want. Just a thought!!!
I will admit..I was one of those girls that would have done ANYTHING to be popular (in middle school..early high school). Now..I'm a year from college and honestly...I see them sitting there in class passing notes..mouthing off to the teachers..and totally throwing away an education. It's almost sad. The only thing they have going (for most of them) is their looks...and that will only get you so far! Personally, it looked like to much trouble to be one of the popular people! Always making sure you looked "100%" perfect 24/7! It would probably mean waking up an hour earlier just to fix my hair the right way! I would much rather sleep that extra hour..lol! It's kinda amusing to see how much time they waste Plus, a true friend doesn't care that your hair is out of place or that you didn't paint your toenails the "in" color. They care about "YOU"!! Remember that!