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Old 08-30-2003, 12:20 PM   #1
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Unhappy Hate the Weekend!

Here is something that some people will never expect to hear: I'm 19 years old, just started university (should be party time!) and I hate the weekend! Why? Cause every weekend, ALL of my friends go somewhere (bar, house) and just drink and party. And I can't because I have to be allergic to alcohol. Everyone is laughing it up, having a blast, while I just sit there and smile. It's terrible, and I think about how much I hate it everyday. In high school, if people were drinking, I would just hang out with different people who weren't drinking. But now, ALL of my friends drink. A lot of the things we used to do, we just kinda grew out of. I prefer weekdays when I can hang out with the same friends when they're not drinking. How can I time that's supposed to be so much fun, be bringing me down so much...?

I know some of you will probably say you don't need alcohol to have fun. But theres a reason why alcohol& partying&univeristy/college all go hand in hand.

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Old 08-30-2003, 01:42 PM   #2
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So what's the reason? I have a few college friends who don't drink. For one, the main alocohol being consumed in college is beer, or as I refer to it, "empty calories" and they are all about being fit and staying thin. Maybe you should pursue a hobby or interest that doesn't involve alocohol. That's interesting though, I've never heard of an alcohol allergy?

 
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Old 08-30-2003, 04:49 PM   #3
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I know of someone with an alcohol allergy.

I really don't know what to say.
I am in my second year of university and I don't know what I would have done last year if I hadn't been able to drink.
I had rarely ever drunk anything alcoholic before last year, so I was thinking I would be the odd one... and I would have been. I know 1 person that didn't drink last year, and I think she is gradually starting to now.

My only suggestions are to get a girlfriend, or REALLY improve your grades.

This year I rarely drink at all. I guess I have no desire to, so its not that hard for me. I would hate to be in your position where I couldn't drink even if I wanted to.
What exactly happens when you do drink alcohol? Do you just get overly drunk and stay that way for several days?

I take it you still like to socialise on a Fri/Sat night?
So staying at home and studying isn't really a happy option?
Personally, going out last year is my greatest regret. I wish that I had chosen to stay back and do my work.
Now I have a boyfriend (I did have him last year, but we didn't spend that much time together). I spend pretty much all weekend with him. So I'm still not getting a lot of work done, but I am away from alcohol.

In your post you are not really asking for other options for you on a Friday night. Sorry I can't help.

 
Old 08-31-2003, 03:14 AM   #4
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can you go with them to the bar/house where they are patying and drinking, and drink a non-alchoholic drink? i know it's not the same, but at least you would still be with your friends and enjoying their company and the music or whatever and not be alone?

i'm sorry you feel so left out

 
Old 09-02-2003, 06:03 PM   #5
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I do always go out with them. I'm getting tired of it though. I just watch them all have a better time than me. And I hate people always asking "Why aren't you drinking?". I just feel so left out.

 
Old 09-03-2003, 12:43 AM   #6
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If you feel you can't have fun without being drunk then you have a problem, simple as that. It'd be different if your friends got absolutely ratar**d every weekend and you didn't like them in that state, but as you say it's the fact that you can't enjoy yourself without alcohol or other stimulation that bugs you, and that feeling of "need for stimulation" is dangerous - what if someone offered you drugs that you weren't allergic to, would you take them just to get a kick and be able to "enjoy yourself"?

In spite of being allergic to alcohol, I'm afraid to say that you do sound like an alcoholic who can't have fun and go out without a drink! Maybe you should have a good think about WHY you feel you can't have fun without getting off your face?

Also as many others have said there are ALWAYS people who hang out either together (with other people who don't drink much or not at all) or with a group of people who do drink in moderation.

I know quite a few people who just drink lemonade and maybe the odd glass of cider or a cocktain once in a blue moon, but hang out with people who drink a bit more and they have no problem with that whatsoever!

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Old 09-03-2003, 10:11 AM   #7
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Redhead, did you not read my original post? I stated that all my friends are drinking on the weekend. If ALL are drinking, that means there are NONE that aren't drinking. Who am I to hang out with? Have you ever been in a situation where everyone is drunk, and you are sober? Everyone probably has a few times, but I'm in that situation ALL THE TIME. I'm in university here..and everyone knows "theoritically" that university/college is party time! And partytime = alcohol. Yes, you can have fun while not drinking...but do you not pay attention to TV commercials about alcohol: usually a situation which has been made more relaxing or more fun with the introduction of whatever drink they're promoting.


 
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I must not have had any fun in my four years of college.

I never went to beer parties. I just went to ball games, dances, socials, dates, movies, & studies.

Somehow I did get married but it must have not been any fun because she does not drink either.

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