For the past 17 years of my life I can never remember looking in the mirror and being happy with what I saw. This hate I built for my body only increased from the taunts I used to and still do recieve. You can only hear something so many times before you begin to believe it yourself. My body had driven me into depression. I am a very sensitive person and my body has held me back from so much. I have become shy,yet I have this burning desire to fit in, be popular, be liked. I find it hard to look at magazines without burning with envy. Every single beautiful face looking back at me is equipped with large breasts and a toned body. I want to be like them. I want breast implants. I have discussed it with my parents and they support me as a last means to free me of my depression. Every single thing I hate about myself links back to my undeveloped body. I know this sounds superficial, but we live in a superficial world. Except it. It's reality. If anyone could give me any advice or their opion on me getting breast implants that would be greatly appreciated. I have debated it endless times and I know this is what I want. Thousands of people a day alternate their apperance with plastic surgery to make themselves happier in their own skin, so why would if be wrong for a teen? I have lived through the depression to realize that I would give anything to be happy...and I think implants just might be the thing.
Hmm... i really don't know what it's like, since i'm a guy, but... isn't it possible that you are just developing late? I just started filling out muscle-wise about 6 months ago... & i'm 19. Besides, don't implants keep you from breast feeding & stuff? Don't you want to have kids some day?
I'm sorry, i know i'm not much help...
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Well what might be a good idea is to just slowly add pad to yer bra to make it seem like u are growing for everyone else and then if u decide thats what u truly want u can make them permant. I dont think its wrong for u because of yer reason. I say screw all the people who don't know yer reason and think it's wrong! Good Luck!
Hey, I know it's hard to be happy with your body in a society that shows you the "perfect" woman with large breasts and a tiny waist. Don't buy into it. Larger breasts wont make you happier. You may feel happier about it for a while but after a while you will see that that void is still there. You need to think about the side effects... sure, you know they are safe for 5-20 years, but what about when you get old? They could do some nasty things to your body. I don't think the solution to your problem is surgery, I think you need to find a way to accept your body for the way it is and grow to love you for you. You need to find a way to be happy with who you are. Plus, some women's breasts don't grow fully until they are in their 20's. Give it some time- you're still young.
Today I'm depressed. Tonight I'll get breast implant. Tomorrow all my problems will go away!
Do you honestly believe that it's that simple?
For sure, when you get an implant, things will not be the same way as they used to be. But do you think that change is for the best? Think about the consequences. Research. ::
I always pray to God to be taller. But I realize that God will not give me the height, but He will give me a better thing - confidence. He will make me feel better about myself. God will not change my height, He will change my attitude.
By the way, not everyone who gets surgery are happy. It's only temporal. Next month, that person will get another surgery. As if nothing they do is good enough, so they always try to "change."
One more thing, do you think everything revolves around BREASTS? No!
Why not consider other resorts? Like, help-session groups (schools offer them), or maybe,just maybe, get falsies, ater-bras, gels or anything to put on your bras to make your breasts look bigger.
Then go to the mall, or anywhere public or see your other friends. Then ask their opinions. Just fool them into thinking they're real. And see the reactions you get. Does it alleviate your depression? Good luck.
You don't need implants. That's the LAST thing you need. What you DO need is a new outlook, possibly counciling, and how to learn to love yourself for who you are. Period. No one else has to live your life but you, so why let them RULE your life?! DOn't give them the power.
Besides, I'm pretty sure most surgeons won't operate on someone who is not completely developed, which woudl include teens, and it's obviously for smart reasons.
Personally I think implants look bad, and most of the guys I know, prefer natural, even if they are small. They may get attention(implants) but that's it.
Ever see that south park episode where that girl gets the boob job thinking everyone will like her?( I think the episode is called something like Bebe's boobs destroy society) lol you should see it, seriously.
Implants won't solve anything, it's just an issue that you're using to cover up the real problems.
Trust me, that's not the area you need to work on
[This message has been edited by DanaJ (edited 08-25-2003).]
I see that most of the people who replied are saying it's not a good idea to get implants, and I agree. You are only 17, right? You aren't done "filling out". (I've never liked that expression and there I go using it!) Girls have a growth spurt at around 18-20 I think, even though when they are in their mid teens, they are pretty much done growing height-wise. So I say wait on it. I wouldn't get implants, but that's just me. A padded bra will help. Not only can you get padded bras, but you can get a bra that's pretty much shaped for you! Lol. So....that's my opinion.
Thank you everyone for your replies!!! I apriciate it, but I was wondering if the people that replied have any idication of what it feels like to hate your body so much. I know my body MIGHT develope further, but I highly doubt it because my whole family was built in a small build. What is the point of living a miserable life if something can be done? and since so many of the replierers were against the implants I was wondering their opionon on what would make getting implants "exceptable" or if it is exceptable for anyone at all (in their opinion) to receive them?
Thank you once again!
If you're mature enough and have tried less drastic options to deal with your self confidence (counselling etc.) then I don't see anything wrong with implants per se, but no matter what you say you might still "fill out" and grow up until the age of 25 or more, so getting implants at your age might be a bit rash.
I never had tiny boobs but mine did grow quite a bit up until recently (I am 25) - if I'd gone by what my Mom's breasts look like I would hardly have any so just because your relatives don't have big ones doesn't mean yours can't grow!
25, female, AS with attentional dysfunction
I am probably the best person to ask about self-loathing. I know how it is. But surgery isn't going to make you any happier. When I was younger I had horrible skin. It wasn't like too bad, but just enough to ruin my confidence. Finally I spent infinate numbers of money trying to fix my skin with the thought in mind that if I had nice skin, I would be happy, I knew it. Finally treatments worked and my skin was "normal" looking but even after that I was still depressed. Your body isn't going to be the source of your happiness- you just have to change your mindset.
Not only that, you say you get taunts from people about your body? Imagine what the catty girls will say about your fake boobs. The situation may just get worse. A ton more girls get made fun of in my school for wearing padded bras as opposed to the flat ones. Imagine implants. And personally, breast implants I think look completely un-natural and most of the time you can tell the second you look at them. Honestly, breast will not make you any prettier, sure maybe some men will consider you "boob pretty"...but personally I'd be more depressed if guys flocked to me for my chest size as opposed to who I am, not what I'm made out of (silicone). You want to be confident? Go to the gym, it really makes you feel good about yourself, not having some foreign object on your chest.
i wish i was in your position! i developed earlier than everyone else in my grade, in 5th grade my breasts went from an a to a b and it wuz noticiable. it didnt make me happy either. i am thinkin of gettin a breast reduction surgery cause i can go anywhere w/o a bra, and i hate it. i m now almost a d and it sux- be happy wit ur body- u dont want my probs. hope i helped.
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Originally posted by beachchick112: i wish i was in your position! i developed earlier than everyone else in my grade, in 5th grade my breasts went from an a to a b and it wuz noticiable. it didnt make me happy either. i am thinkin of gettin a breast reduction surgery cause i can go anywhere w/o a bra, and i hate it. i m now almost a d and it sux- be happy wit ur body- u dont want my probs. hope i helped.
Amen. I developed really early, and I htink by the time I was about 12 I was already a C cup. I haven't gotten too much bigger since, thank God!
I can't stand having a large chest. It's so much hassel, and no where near the worth. That's a hell of a lot of weight on your chest, trust me.
Also, implants are horribly fake looking also. Boobs aren't supposed to sit there, and be so hard and firm. It's unnatural, to an obvious degree.
Do you have cable? The discovery channel, or disvovery health? They show actually breast implant surgery quite a bit and I think anyone who sees it will think twice, if they're smart! Seriously though, watch the procedure, I think you'd almost be horrified.
My partner and I watched one, and I think he was cringing a *hell* of a lot more than me.
ok, well honestly there is very few doctors who will even consider operating on someone who is not done growing, that and implants will only attract superficial boys...and u dont want those anyways, implants make it impossible to breat feed, and there is always risks. MY aunt got them, and they look natural (she just went from an a to a b), but she is a 38 yr. old woman, and mature enough to know that that was what she wanted, you may regret getting them down the road, just learn to love your body, i know it's hard because i can relate to how much i used to hate my body, i always thought i was small, and ugly...but now i have started working out, and believe it or not sit ups actually make your breats perkier, i grew, and now i am happy with myself, and im only 14, trust me my cousin didnt grow until she was 19, and she went thru exactly what you are going thru
Surgery is not the answer, it is only a temporary solution, and you may feel better now...but sooner or later you will be uncomfortable about something else...and what do u do get more surgery?!! no you just need to learn to accept yourself, no one is perfect, and the women in magazines are airbrushed, digitalized, and many of them have small breasts (paris hilton wears an a!) you would look great to if you have 8 people do ur make-up and hair, and then had a computer to fix the flaws that make-up cant hide!
You pretty much said that we live in a world centered on looks, and that this is the reality and we have to accept it. Well that's not so and since you believe that so much I feel sorry for you. Have you ever heard of perception? Because it's not reality that makes you hate your body it's the way you percieve yourself in your own world. You've pretty much convinced yourself that you hate your body because of certain negativity you've been subjected too. And because you've created this negative image of yourself in your own mind that is exactly why you are in this particular situation. The stronger thoughts that channel through your mind always end up becoming true. And because of your current thinking, that is exactly what you have become.
What I'm trying to say is change your perception so that it works for you. Mentally, visualize yourself in a desired state and things will work out for you.
Breast implants for teens is not exactly common, but it is far from uncommen, as well. It would be best if you deal with this psychologically rather than physically. You mention seeing models with large breasts in magazines. Well, I have seen a number of women's magazines (Glamour, Cosmo...) and there are plenty of petite girls, and plenty of petite ladies get really good looking guys.
However, if you really hate your body that much, then implants may do you a world of good. I might suggest you try to contact other teens who have had the procedure for the reasons you state to see how they did and if it really improved their lives.
I think larger breasts will get you noticed a lot more by the boys - are you ready to deal with this, and ready to have them staring at your chest all the time and wanting to grab hold?
there's a window of absolute growth for breasts.. aka... the peak of growth... sure.. they'll change a little later in life.. but there's a medical definition of the end of the major growth period
growth of your breasts starts around two years before you begin your period, and the majority (discounting major weight gain) ends about 2 years after.. if you've passed 3-4 years after your period started.. you're absolutely sure.. and your parents are behind you.. it shouldn't be hard to find a doctor who will opperate...
however.. weather I can personally condone this or not depends on a couple of factors.. how big are they currently? I could see a major increase in an A or B being ok.. maybe a small increase in a C especially if they're lopsided.. but I will tell you girl to girl right now honey.. I have DD's... and if you cross a certain limit (d+) you're not only looking at alot of guys who don't like them.. you're looking at massive ammounts of back pain as time goes on... I'm only 18 and I already have to have a heating pad sometimes because my back gets so bad.. they're really really not worth it at that point..
but if your parents support you and it would really help you to feel better about yourself.. I can completely get behind that.. but most importantly don't make it about the supermodels... you'll never look like one of them.. mainly because you can't airbrush your whole body and wear 1/2 an inch of makeup every day of your life... if you want this.. do it for you.. because you would feel better about your body if you did it.