hey guys i need some help here ,this chick i recently got to know really likes me and she says am cute and eveyrhting everytime she meets me and last nite was the first nite we went out as she asked me out..so we went out and had some fun and i got to know her better...during the nite wekissed and touched..that about it! then she askd me out..would u go out with me? i couldnt really answer her i said i have to think about it..and she really wants to go out with me..iam not really sure if i should go out with her not..??
i think i need to know her better..so do i just say can we be firends tioll we get to know each other better and then go out or what????
i dont wanna hurt her..i wanna say it to her in a nice way...so plz help me she needs to know very soon
thnax
First of all i think that it was horrible idea to kiss her and lead her on if you didnt like her because that is just playing with her heart and asking for trouble.
Second of all i think that if she really likes you that she will wait for you to be ready for a relationship...but you may need to be ready for her to be upset after you kissed her and prolly made her think that your answer would be a "yes". Understand??
ohh man...really?? what shall i do now..i ididnt know it was that bad..that was my first time to even kiss and gurl and b with one propley..she has had like 3 bfs b4..so yeah iam not experineced..any other advice :S
she was the one gettin very close and started kissing so i just got into in and kissed her back...
i just need to know her better...what can i say to her?
How old are you? You seem like you're high school age or so. Have fun, if you break her heart, she'll get over it. It's part of high school. when I was there, I broke a few girls hearts and had mine broken as well. Just enjoy high school. It's all about fun and of course getting good marks at the same time.
Dude, if you dont know whether or not you want to be with her, you obviously dont want to...just tell her the truth. No matter how bad things are the truth is always best. Dont make something up, to make her feel better. Tell her how you feel. Kissing her wasnt such a bad thing. That just shows there is at least an attraction between you two. Tell her how you feel and go from there.
Your 20 and she is the first girl you have kissed? And why did you post this in a teen area? Any way, I say go for it, obviously its hard for you to find any one, and don’t even try to tell me otherwise. DATE HER, god boy, you wanna be alone forever?
hey, i don't think that's right at all. there's nothing wrong with being 20 and having a first kiss. i'm 19 and still waiting for mine. that doesn't mean its hard for him to find someone. and he should go out with her just due to fear of being alone forever. because that's totally not true. if he truly likes this girl, then sure he can go out with her. but to do it just to do it? no. there is someone out there for everyone, and maybe he just hasn't found that person yet. don't just say mean things and pretend that that's "the truth" and it "hurts" or whatever, because that isn't the truth.
as for the actual question, it IS true however that it may not have been a good idea to return her kisses. because coming from a girl's perspective, that would totally make a girl think that this dude really likes her, and that maybe something will come of it. she's probably very vulnerable right now, so you'll need to take that into consideration. she's obviously very interested in you, but don't let that be a reason to be with her. ya know? don't just love someone for loving you. you have to truly think about your feelings for her. tell her that you'd much rather just hang out with her, in group settings to take away any pressures, and get to know her. besides, if something does become of your friendship, that's only an added bonus. because first you'll get the awesomeness of just having such a good friend in her. ya know? well good luck :c)
ok thnx for the reply..
well i told her last nite that i would like to be friends for and we could see how it goes and ifit goes well i get to know her better,mayb we can go out?
well she was upset and i tried my best to make her feel better..neways she was ok in the end and she said she would b my freind...
later that nite we wree together talkin and **** and all of sudden she started kissing me again.. and touchin me all over?? is it ok for freinds to do that stuff or what??
she kissed,touched and then started playin with my thing and i had to respond back and we played around touchin each other body parts and stuff but we didnt get to have intercourse tho..coz ididnt want to..
what do u think this gurl is like..i dont really know..
ok thnx for the reply..
well i told her last nite that i would like to be friends for and we could see how it goes and ifit goes well i get to know her better,mayb we can go out?
well she was upset and i tried my best to make her feel better..neways she was ok in the end and she said she would b my freind...
later that nite we wree together talkin and **** and all of sudden she started kissing me again.. and touchin me all over?? is it ok for freinds to do that stuff or what??
she kissed,touched and then started playin with my thing and i had to respond back and we played around touchin each other body parts and stuff but we didnt get to have intercourse tho..coz ididnt want to..
what do u think this gurl is like..i dont really know..
id be careful..if u diss her completely she could really in return hurt you with the law, since she seems so into u and vulnerable to ur words, .. todays world its always the girl getting hurt. And I am a girl myself, and beleive that a lot of women fake being sexually harrased, etc. For money or revenge. But I dont know her, so u might know better
Or maybe she just thinks ur really hot and wants to get laid, and then move on...I know a lot of girls like that also..
If deep down u dont want to, tell her. If she understands, great - If she doesn't, is that the kind of chick u wanna be with?
On the other hand, it sounds as thought u could do with some experience. So if u like her, go out for a while, if things dont turn out, its for the better.
The only rule in love is that u never Intentionally hurt your partner. Stick by that and u should be ok.
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