His g/f doesnt live in the city, and he's somewhat flirty, reading about how people can be maybe me too...I'm really clueless. Is it bad if he's mentioned his g/f?
if hes flirtatious then its ok to do it back, as long as it doesnt lead to anything. cause then you will be a bad person if something did actually happened , since this guy is in a relationship. so as long as it doesnt go beyond just being flirty then your ok. and thats cool. cause to him that may not be a bad thing. but if it actually goes beyond that. well then thats when you got problems. if he mentions his girlfriend , then just respect that, and dont think negatively
Originally posted by lovely.lady: No it's not... please respect the girlfriend and don't flirt with him.
allow me to clarify before anyone else comes judging me.
i meant that if hes being flirtatious with you. and he has a girlfriend , he is in a committed relationship.
then its ok to be that way to. but dont go thinking that , that will evolve into something greater.
cause you say he mentions her. so that means hes not dismissing her.
so he is just naturally a flirty guy. so you can do that to. but dont go beyond flirting. cause then you are in dangerous waters and it will cause conflicts for him.
so yeah its ok to do that back. just dont over do it. i mean yeah you stay respectful. dont go kissing the guy or anything extreme like that. but i mean in playing around and you know stuff like that. then thats ok. theres no wrong there.
for anyone who are .gonna misinterpret and take everything i say out of context then dont post. just leave it be.
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Haha, these replies are funny.
Hey, Micro. I would leave this guy alone and restrain yourself from flirting back with him. Think about his girlfriend and how she'd feel if she found out about you two. You're not wrong for wanting to flirt back but just forget about it.
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well thats true. but i was suggesting that maybe this guy doesnt see that he is flirting. maybe to him thats being himself. which is what im understanding, since its stated that he mentions his girlfriend yet hes still being flirtatious. so maybe thats just the way he is. which is why its ok to do that back, if that is the scenario. as long as it doesnt go beyond flirting.
There is always the chance that he is flirting with you, wanting it to go firther, but by mentioning his g/f he is inadvertntly advising you that he is not "available" and therefore you would only ever be a fling to him.
Leave hi alone, and get a guy who is really in it for YOU
Wow Conner. Don't take it so personally. If that's what you call judging then that's kind of sensitive. I wasn't replying to you anyway... I was stating my opinion, after all, this board is about giving advice based on -opinions- so don't take it to heart so much.
im not taking it personally. but i think its rude. to question someones advice. to comment on your own is fine. but to say that someone's suggsetions are wrong. well thats just down right rude. imagine if all this were in person. and your trying to make sense of things and someone who is overhearing comes along and says no you're wrong dont do what he says.
and you took what i said out of context , so that makes it all the more degrading. cause you dont know what it was i said. and still comment on it.
so im not offended. just seems wrong with what you did.
in giving your advice and your suggestions to others. thats how message boards work. but to go in and quote on someone and comment on that, when you dont know what is being implied. well thats just being rude.
so dont apologize. im just saying please dont do that.
I do think he's easy on the eyes and very nice, and its not to say let's be disrespectful of his g/f, but he's not married, and why live apart by choice then be flirty? It makes me feel like a would be jerk or a stupid girl if he likes me. Either way its not my deal, I was just confused so asked this ?. :0
Connor, this is what free speech is about. It is perfectly fine to debate others opinions and to quote what they had said. That's the reason for the quote button. It is in no way rude to state the opposite side of an issue. I'm afraid your ego got a little bruised. Besides, i've seen you outright tell posters to ignore the advice above and listen to your advice.
So, try to take everything you read with a grain of salt. Nobody was trying to judge you or degrade you.
If you're interested look at the post in this board named "question for guys" by mubster. I'm sure you'll see that you've done the exact same thing that you fought about here - including quoting
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Originally posted by Meg28: Connor, this is what free speech is about. It is perfectly fine to debate others opinions and to quote what they had said. That's the reason for the quote button. It is in no way rude to state the opposite side of an issue. I'm afraid your ego got a little bruised. Besides, i've seen you outright tell posters to ignore the advice above and listen to your advice.
So, try to take everything you read with a grain of salt. Nobody was trying to judge you or degrade you.
If you're interested look at the post in this board named "question for guys" by mubster. I'm sure you'll see that you've done the exact same thing that you fought about here - including quoting
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my ego did not get bruised in any way. i just see that as being wrong. cause they quoted something that they took out of context. and well you cant help but try to clarify things further.
not once have i ever said not to take someone elses advice. in that thread you describe i was only clarifying and being more specific as to what i was suggesting. and it was fought over. which i expected. but i dont see how i was in the wrong, when i only tried to clear things up. that what is being said by others is not what i was implying. and then that got into an argument. so that has no connection with this. no one here is judging me. they are just criticizing my writings.so theres no harm done on a personal level.
i know this is a message board. but im just saying to me what happened here is wrong. it may just be wrong to me. but thats how it is. if you cant accept that. well then thats up to you.
Ok, your point is made and I think mine was too but in the other thread you specifically responded to GetGhostNucca's (right above yours)advice. Your first words were "no don't do that", referring to his advice. You also called him shallow and actually insinuated that he wasn't "human". Isn't that rude? We shouldn't be arguing over this and I'm sorry I took it up with you in the first place. I just think that lovely lady did absolutely nothing wrong. And you have done the same thing, if not worse.
But, if you don't see that, then that's okay too.
Shake hands?
Meg
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if you wanna get beat up, then by all means flirt with him, sleep with him whatever.
but if you wanna be a self respecting human being, find your own guy.
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Originally posted by Meg28: Ok, your point is made and I think mine was too but in the other thread you specifically responded to GetGhostNucca's (right above yours)advice. Your first words were "no don't do that", referring to his advice. You also called him shallow and actually insinuated that he wasn't "human". Isn't that rude? We shouldn't be arguing over this and I'm sorry I took it up with you in the first place. I just think that lovely lady did absolutely nothing wrong. And you have done the same thing, if not worse.
But, if you don't see that, then that's okay too.
Shake hands?
Meg
you have no point. because you are using false accusations.
with GetGhost Nucca's post. i replied in saying NO DONT DO THAT! as in saying no dont do that, thats not what i meant with all ive have said before. my whole goal in that situation. was to clarify that all that i told them before , was not related to what GetGhostNucca was saying.
i said i picture him in having a shallow perspective on the situation. i didnt say dude your shallow!
and i didnt say that he wasnt human. "if you say oh well you arent even human since you dont look attractive to others. " that statement was in saying that you cant think that way about someone. and i was making a point here. it was never in any way associated with me saying that he was shallow.
no lady_lovely didnt do anything wrong. i was just pointing out to please not do that with my posts, if you are gonna take everthing out of context.
and here youve done the same thing. youve quoted me not knowing what was being said. and here i am clarifying exactly what was being said. which was what i was doing with lady_lovely. if you see this as an attack, then you are the one that is overly sensitive
so you no argument here. and not much else can be said about this.
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Conner----------- It's over. I'm sorry I offended you, but it really wasn't that big of a deal. It is perfectly fine to counter someone's advice if you think it is going to cause a person harm. For instance, if someone was really depressed and was asking people what do to with it, would you counter someone if they said "Take a bunch of pills; it'll make you feel better." I just think your advice might bring some pain to at least someone... and the only reason I say NOT to flirt with him is when I was going out with this guy all these girls would flirt with him and when I would find out it would make me feel so dissed. It's all about respect.
Anyway, seriously, it wasn't a big deal, but I'm sorry you took it this way.
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Well, I had fun watching that. I was wondering how long it would take for someone else to get into an argument with Connor. Lovely Lady...it took you one whole day.
Anyway, it's all over now. Does anybody even remember what the original question was? Haha
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well i dont think it is right to flirt with someone else's boyfriend/girlfriend unless u like them or it just happens but i wouldnt suggest it lolbut it is ur choice. u guys shouldnt be so harsh to connor hes giving fine advice and people who are saying not to do it are right too. lol good luck!
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