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Old 02-28-2004, 08:06 PM   #1
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Question Older guy help

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Ok I'm 16 and this guy named Brian is 20 but he doesn't act like he is older than me or anything and i am really comfortable with him. I really like him and i have known and had a crush on him since i was like 6. My stepmom grew up w/ his parents and they have been friends forever... and last summer we really hit it off.. he finally said he liked me and he even tried to kiss me.. i was a little scared because i hadn't made out with anyone before.. so i backed away and now i regret it. I like him more than ever and it seems that he likes me too but he hasn't made an effort like he did before.. like calling me.. or writing me emails ect. When we are in person i feel like i could fall asleep just looking at him and i fell like he likes me too. And hes always the first person to instant message me. I feel so strongly about him and i think i may have distroyed any chance of us getting together last summer when i backed away from his kiss. I am really shy! What can i do to let him know that i still like him without flat out telling him? Do you think that he is interested? Even though my stepmom is friends w/ his family.. My mom has no clue any advice on how to clue her in w/o her freaking out that he is 20? He is a little more experienced than me too.. What can i do to make me seem more mature? Thanks for the help!

 
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Old 03-03-2004, 01:53 AM   #2
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Re: Older guy help

I wouldn't worry about the age, there are plenty of relationships like that and with your mom being good friends with his parents that's probably a good thing... and with the whole kissing him thing again, maybe you should ask him if he wants to hang out sometime, like goto a movie and just give him kind of hints that you want to kiss him... like flirt a little, play with his hair, tell him he has a cute nose, lick your lips, anything will usally work for a guy.

 
Old 03-03-2004, 11:18 AM   #3
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The kiss will eventually come....

I would just take the above advice by just asking him to go out somewheres. Going on a date would losing up the tenching between you both. Being around him for a few hours would losing you up because of his comfort then you'll be able to do.

Kissing also comes naturally so don't fuss that you don't know how. Let him guide you and eventually you'll see there isn't much to it.

 
Old 03-12-2004, 12:22 AM   #4
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Re: Older guy help

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Ok I'm 16 and this guy named Brian is 20 but he doesn't act like he is older than me or anything and i am really comfortable with him. I really like him and i have known and had a crush on him since i was like 6. My stepmom grew up w/ his parents and they have been friends forever... and last summer we really hit it off.. he finally said he liked me and he even tried to kiss me.. i was a little scared because i hadn't made out with anyone before.. so i backed away and now i regret it. I like him more than ever and it seems that he likes me too but he hasn't made an effort like he did before.. like calling me.. or writing me emails ect. When we are in person i feel like i could fall asleep just looking at him and i fell like he likes me too. And hes always the first person to instant message me. I feel so strongly about him and i think i may have distroyed any chance of us getting together last summer when i backed away from his kiss. I am really shy! What can i do to let him know that i still like him without flat out telling him? Do you think that he is interested? Even though my stepmom is friends w/ his family.. My mom has no clue any advice on how to clue her in w/o her freaking out that he is 20? He is a little more experienced than me too.. What can i do to make me seem more mature? Thanks for the help!
I agree with what the others have said to a point. It's neat that you two like eachother and hit it off so well. However, I would first see what your parents thought about the idea of you two together. I understand that age doesn't matter for the most part. But, I also understand that when he's over 18 and you are under, it's called stat. Not to be negative, just truthful. So, my best advice would be to ask your parents. I'm not trying to sound hateful. I'm just trying to give a different opinion. Good luck with whatever you do.

 
Old 03-12-2004, 07:10 AM   #5
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I agree with what the others have said to a point. It's neat that you two like eachother and hit it off so well. However, I would first see what your parents thought about the idea of you two together. I understand that age doesn't matter for the most part. But, I also understand that when he's over 18 and you are under, it's called stat. Not to be negative, just truthful. So, my best advice would be to ask your parents. I'm not trying to sound hateful. I'm just trying to give a different opinion. Good luck with whatever you do.

Tye03 does have a very good point about age issues and the leagal part of it. I would check into your state laws or call a lawyer to have someone explain it to you.

Some states have age of consent at 16 but there have laws still on how old you can go before the guy can get in trouble. Some are at the ages of 19 and 20.

It seems innocent but even kissing can get him into trouble....Speak to your parents to see what their thoughts are and maybe get leagal advice.

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