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Old 03-13-2004, 08:07 PM   #1
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how do i tell him?

OK theres this guy who has liked me for the lonngest time( just recently found that out a couple days ago when he told me) I really had no idea until he said something to me, but i just dont see him in that way. Im so afraid hes gonna try and ask me out(known for asking girls out after he tells them hes liked them) so ive been kinda avoiding conversation with him which is a little hard seeings how we eat lunch together I dont know how to tell him that i dont like him in that way, or if he does ask me out, i dont know how to let him down easy. hes a great friend, and i just wish he didnt have to like me lol. Im just afraidwe wont talk nemore if i tell him that, and i know i could just say I just want to be freinds or whatever but hell get hurt just by that...i just dont know what to do...

 
Old 03-14-2004, 08:24 AM   #2
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Re: how do i tell him?

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Tell him you are not interested in dating him. DO NOT make up stories or excuses, tell him you have a boyfriend, etc as these will only hurt him more. If he really is a friend, when you tell him 'no' he will get over it. He may or may not talk to you after this, but he will be less hurt in the long run than if you say 'just friends' or try to deceive him! G'luck

Tell him you wouldnt mind hanging out with him and going to do things but you see him more as a good friend then as being a boyfriend. I am with the above poster dont deceive him, and instead of saying "I just want to be friends with you" say something like: "That really makes me feel good to hear you say that you like right now though I would just like us to hang out and get to know each other a lot better.... right now I am just not attracted to you in that way, but I want to hang out and get to know you better because you never know what could happen." then leave it there....

Because the honest truth is you never know what will happen. My fiance and I started out as good friends and I didnt want anything with him because I was really attached to someone else, but after a while I began to realize that I was attracted him and I start noticing that I missed him more than I missed the guy I was with at the time!! SO you never know....

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Old 03-14-2004, 09:32 AM   #3
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Re: how do i tell him?

Be honest, don't lie, and PLEASE don't smile when you say 'no' because I had someone turn me down while smiling and it was horrible... What emtdollluvsjohn said was a great way of telling him. You never know, he could be more. But yeah, if you really don't want to even hang out with him, don't decieve him.

 
Old 03-15-2004, 11:46 AM   #4
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Re: how do i tell him?

You need to be honest with him. I am sure he will accept you decision if he cared about you that much. He may be torn at first but he is a big boy and has to accept the word NO at times. I am sure he'll respect that the friendship is more valuable.

 
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